"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Arrggghhhh why do Women do this?

Jaun_Don

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So I had a date with this really cute and cool girl that I have known for almost 10 years, there has always been a thing between us but either her or I have been in relationships and nothing has ever happened except for a kiss years ago...but we went on a date to the movies today and she told me she had a boyfriend, when I mentioned another movie I can get tickets too...so yeah...I didn't say anything to her until after the movie and asked what's his name and how long have they been seeing each other.

I just don't get way after a week of chatting and e-mailing there was no mention of a BF so why is that she would only mention this once she gets too the movie theatre and No I didn't pay for her...and why is it that girls I ask out do have BF's but have no problem going out drinking or to the movies with me?

I am lost and the other date got cancelled last night because she said she wanted to focus on School but after her course finishes then yes...

whatever...what's the point in trying really...I mean really?.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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next her.

to go out with you, is a disrespect already towards her bf.
To tell you after the movies, she was being selfish.

But if at first if a girl didnt tell you about her bf, then it could also mean her IL in you shoudl be high...so in a sense you're like a booty call or the "mistress".

Well if you think you have a chance with her or just want to be her friend then stick around, if not then move on to girls that are actually single.
 

Jaun_Don

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
next her.

to go out with you, is a disrespect already towards her bf.
To tell you after the movies, she was being selfish.

But if at first if a girl didnt tell you about her bf, then it could also mean her IL in you shoudl be high...so in a sense you're like a booty call or the "mistress".

Well if you think you have a chance with her or just want to be her friend then stick around, if not then move on to girls that are actually single.
I asked her if her BF was cool with this and she said yeah, the thing is I thought she was single that is why I persued it, I feel like wasted my time too be honest.
 

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why the **** are posting this **** in two places!!???


stop ****ing trolling
 

DonJuanMonk

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Arggghghh Why do "men" do this? They have a female friend of many years or many months yet they don't make a move yet they have this "thing" for her. To women, You are gutless weak and pathetic. Suck it up and find a real woman to spend time with.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jaun_Don

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there has always been a thing between us but either her or I have been in relationships

Did you miss that part or something?
 

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Originally posted by Jaun_Don
there has always been a thing between us but either her or I have been in relationships

Did you miss that part or something?
and it was the first time I have seen her in 5 years!...
 

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This girl is dense. Don't spend any more money or romantic energy on her.
 

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For some reason alot of women like to think that a man might be interested in them as a friend without being romantically interested. I don't know why but they think that way.

I say if you want to be her friend then be her friend, if you want to date her you are just going against a very difficult path unless you know what you are doing(and the bf doesn't).
 

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dude, if you give off a "friendly asexual buddy" vibe what do you
expect the girls to think and feel about you?

it's not her fault

*sigh*
this sounds alot like "she's my best friend but i am secretly in love with her while she only dates jerks" syndrome :crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She is doing this because it makes you go "Aaaaaarrrrggghh." She has the power to drive you insane & she knows it.
 
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