Are you guys cool with your girlfriend getting calls late at night?

[Fadero]

Are you guys cool with your girlfriend getting calls late at night? (Assuming they are calls from guys, not girls)

How late do you define "late" as? For me, I'm talking like at 1am or even later.

 

[jlujan]

Why even ask, OFF COURSE NOT!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Fadero]

I'm asking because I'm getting two sides to this. Some people agree with you "of course not." But some people I've asked don't mind if their girlfriends get calls from guys late at night.

For me personally..she got 2 calls late this evening. One was from a guy friend whom I've met and I'm cool with him. From that call, I really didn't mind she was talking to him although I felt he could've chosen to either call earlier or just call at another time.

But she got another call from a guy friend who has expressed interest in her at one point...and I know he still likes her. So when he called at 1am, I was a bit upset. Is my being upset justified?

 

[jlujan]

If someone feels o.k. with calling her at 1:00am, its because he has done it before, i don't know if you live with her, but you have to assume she gets calls late at night all the time.

Do you want that?

 

[Fadero]

Originally posted by jlujan
If someone feels o.k. with calling her at 1:00am, its because he has done it before, i don't know if you live with her, but you have to assume she gets calls late at night all the time.

Do you want that?

You're right about that. To clarify, we don't live together. The thing is that we became officially boyfriend/girlfriend just a little bit over a week ago. So I've experienced her getting calls late at night before.

Since we started dating and to the point of now that we're together, her calls that used to come late at night have greatly decreased. In fact, tonight was the first time in many weeks that she has gotten a call late at night. And I guess that's why it bothered me.

In my point of view, I know out of respect.. I wouldn't be calling another dude's girlfriend even passed 11pm. But that's just me. Whatever I have to say, can wait til the morning or a better time. Only exceptions if it were dire emergencies or something like that. But I know that wasn't the case with my girl tonight.

 

[jlujan]

Originally posted by Fadero
The thing is that we became officially boyfriend/girlfriend just a little bit over a week ago.

That explains everything, in my opinion the worse thing you can do is to get mad, she had a life before you and her got together, and she can't erase that just like that.

Give it some time, DON'T SHOW JEALOUSLY, and re-evalue this situation in 3 months.

 

[Lionheart]

Depends whether it wakes me up or not...

I wouldn't have a major problem, if the AFC's want to call her in the middle of the night and she is stupid enough to take them, then she deserves everything she gets....

No point being insecure over the calls, at that sort of time it's probably AFC's with no life who have nothing better to do but ring an attached girlfriend.

 

[Sojourner]

If a gal has initiated the "wants to be exclusive" thingy to become your girlfriend, then she has seen you as her No. 1 man. All other dudes in her life take a backseat to you. As a cool suave DJ, you ought not show your insecure and jealous side by getting upset over her fielding phone calls late at night from other guys.

My concern for you is: has your girlfriend communicated to all her male contacts that you and she are now exclusive? If she has, it's up to her to tell the guys not to phone her past 8:00 p.m.

 

[trajhenkhet]

Unless you are in the "middle" of something I imagine it wouldn't be a big deal. If you do happen to be caught in the middle of something with her and she gets a call, remind her that she can always call her friends back later. Remember that dudes just damage their own chances when they call a lady to just talk.

 

[Quick]

I'd give her some time to handle this stuff on her own and wouldn't get mad about it. From you saying that the calls have greatly decreased, I'd say she's probably doing the right thing and letting other guys know what's up. As long as the guy that wants her doesn't keep calling over an extended period of time, I wouldn't be bothered. If a month from now, this is still going on, then I'd have to talk to my girl about it.

 

[T.T. Boy]

It doesn't bother me too much, obviously she has chosen me over any of her AFC stalkers.

 

[Umbra]

If I'm with her and she talks for a long time, I would feel like his time was more important to her than mine, and I would proceed to get very pissed. If I'm not around and she's faithful, or if it's a short conversation while I'm with her, I don't really give a f*ck.

 

[Kwah]

I could care less. If she wants to date some creepy ass guy like that over me then what the hell am I doing with her anyway? Of course if she complains about them calling that late I am more than willing to deal with that part

 

[princelydeeds]

Don't show jealousy just let it roll off your back. However, I think your premise is wrong.

Originally posted by Fadero
In my point of view, I know out of respect.. I wouldn't be calling another dude's girlfriend even passed 11pm. But that's just me. Whatever I have to say, can wait til the morning or a better time. Only exceptions if it were dire emergencies or something like that.

You are thinking its the guys fault. Its always your girls fault. Think about it, why in the heck does he care about you or why should he respect you? It is up to her to say don't call, tell them she has a man, and to keep them in line. If shes decent then of course they want your girl, but she has to tell them not to call or to call at certain times. I wouldn't say anything to her but if stuff like this keeps happening then I would cut her loose cause you know shes messing around and playing games. Always keep your anger hidden its the little things that show where her heart and mind are. If something pisses you off tell her directly, but don't b!tch about it.

 

[Fadero]

So far, I just let it slide for now. If its still going on and persists, then its a problem. I gotta remember to keep my cool and not make a big deal out of it.

Perhaps I should have some female friends call me up on purpose late in the evening and see how my girlfriend reacts to it.

 

[smokey]

Yea...

Look, I've never called a girl late at night just to "talk". When I called, I new what my intentions where.

Think about it...what is so important that you have to call someone at 1AM?

Like dude said...If she continues to get these calls late at night then you might want to take another look at your girl.

Just my 2 cents.

Goog Luck

 

[bluded]

you don't want to look like a jelous ******* but just keep on the look out because if it happens frequently then theres something not right there. then u get to the bottom of it, if shes goin to be difficult about it maybe she aint worth being with if she aint down with you all the way.