"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Are my standards too high?

underoath777

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Hey guys, I've been dating some random chicks off and on, and have been back and forth in the country so I haven't done hardly as many approaches as I used to.

Can you just look at my set of standards for a girl, and tell me if it's all reasonable? I just usually start dating girls to find they're nothing like I want, and it makes it seem like it'll be impossible to find one to fit my standards.


Physically
- Short (4'11 - 5'3ish)
- Petite. I love them tiny!
- Cute Face (angled, like a v)
I'm just reallllly picky when it comes to what I like lol. These girls are usually a 7-8 on everyone else's scale, but even then, they are pretty hard to come by. They just 100% emcompass what a female should be to me, and I guess the instinct of protecting them comes over me :)

Personality
- Intelligent
- Very Witty
- Funny
- Ambitious
- Outgoing
- Not Bi-Polar

Random Other Stuff
- Doesn't drink all day every day, lol
- Doesn't do drugs
- Was raised in a good family
- Believes in God
- Doesn't have a lot of guy friends
- WANTS a relationship...lol
- Isn't an attention *****.
- Will act like an AFC to me :)

This stuff would be great but not necessary lol
- Tattoos (like clavicle, and shoulders. yum)
- Monroe Piercing
- Listens to rock
(I basically want a scene chick lol)
So what do you guys think, is this too much to ask? I suppose I'll have to go out and search for the petite girls like they're rare Pokemon, and then approach.

Another thing, I was going to move back to SoCal. I lived there for 2 months last year, but I feel like it would be VERY difficult to find a girl like this there. Any thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sodbuster

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you may find her, BUT you are looking on the SHORT end of the spectrum and eliminating alot of women. I like them tall,but do I limit myself to 5'9" and above?No, I've dated as short as 5'4". I'd say you are looking at about 3 in 100 for height and build alone,then they have to be cute,down to 1 in 100. Your personality requirements 1 in 10000. Tatts 1 in 40000 high quality after that-1 in 200000. I don't know how many single women live in your area,but that would be about impossible where I live.

He11, finding a cute girl who doesn't smoke and is NICE is hard here
 

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Lol dude wayyy too much to expect. Just go with the flow, if you are attracted to her, cool. You need to realize that scenester chicks do drugs. So you have contradicting personality traits.
 

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Haha, ok well thanks for the input.


I've knocked it down to a petite short girl who is witty and fun.

:)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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funny how we both have almost the same physical standards...except that I only want 'em 4'11-5'1...5'2 is already tall...haha

lucky me I'm from the Philippines, where there's an abundance of the qualities you've described
 

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I have had some of my best experiences with women I never would have pictured myself with in a million years. You have to be attracted to them, that's a requirement. Apart from that, be open to possibilities you may not even be considering right now.

And yes, I agree with the point that many of your requirements are contradictory or at very least unlikely to be met. It's not reasonable to expect you are going to get all that in one woman.
 

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doctorj said:
funny how we both have almost the same physical standards...except that I only want 'em 4'11-5'1...5'2 is already tall...haha

lucky me I'm from the Philippines, where there's an abundance of the qualities you've described
Cuz then they look like little kids, right? Hot.
 
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