Approaching at a place you go to often.

[OlympicTim]

Hey guys so I was at the gym and I saw this real cute girl that I wanted to approach. However Its a smaller gym (I see probably the same 15-20 people) in a small town.

I didn't approach but it got me wondering is it a good idea to approach in a place that you will be going to often and will be seeing the same people over and over again. (Gym, work, classes) Or would I be better of just leaving it unless I get a smile and eye contact?

 

[fastlife]

Totally depends on you. It'll only be awkward if you feel it's awkward. No matter how badly you **** up with a girl, if you're 100% as confident walking out of the interaction as you were walking into it she won't have the power to make the situation awkward.

 

[Chamber36]

Do whatever the fvck you wanna do as long as you can retain your integrity

You can approach a number of ways:
ask them what they're training for/tell them you're impressed/give them some advice/ask them for help/ask them for advice

When I see a girl, if there's anything non-sexual that I'm interested in, then I might go and approach. If I'm only interested sexually, then I'd only use that to approach in a bar setting.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I have the same issue too, as the YMCA I got to isn't very big, although it's downtown in a fairly large city. There are a few girls I exchange eye contact with now and then that I'm fairly confident I could approach them and get their number, but I've decided against it for now.

I like the gym to be my haven, where I can go without worrying about anything other than working out and getting in good shape. Say I get a girl's number there, we go out a few times, then we stop talking and it's awkward whenever we run into one another at the gym, so much that every time I go, I'm not thinking "wow I hope I don't see Rachel today. Maybe I shouldn't go."

Totally up to you though, and I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Let's see how long I stick to this though haha.

 

[Poon King]

Its best to approach women you want to have sex with. How else will you have sex with them??

 

[l e g e n d a r y]

If you are "approaching" in a way that you wouldn't want others at your gym to see then I'd say you're most likely not approaching authentically, and possibly listening to too much run of the mill PUA advice lol. Just position yourself near her and start a normal conversation about whatever. I tell my clients, there are 2 wavelengths happening simultaneously in any interaction.. verbal, and non-verbal. And each wavelength can be sexual or non-sexual. We all know guys that can verbally talk non-sexual topics, yet non-verbally inject a sexual vibe. On the other hand, there are plenty of guys out there that read online about how they have to go "direct" so verbally they tell her she's cute, etc, but non-verbally they are still completely non-sexual.. that's why they're not getting laid haha.

So using the gym as an example where you see the same people all the time.. my verbal dialogue wouldn't be sexual, I'd just be talking about normal, cool ,everyday ****.. but my non-verbals would be injecting sexuality as much as possible. Done correctly with eye contact, tonality, pausing and holding eye contact, etc.. she WOULD fully get that I'm flirting with her. Yet to everyone else around, it looks like 2 people talking. No one is going to say "hey look at that guy hitting on that girl OMG!!!!".. in fact, no one should even notice really.