"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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approaching a woman--I MISSED IT

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yea after my break up with my stupid AW hor... i was always on the look out for a girl that fits my needs

so i was at the mall just walkin aorund alone.. lookin good in my shirt and i just shaved before so i was lookin sharp

i was on the phone while i was walking and out of no where this beauitful girl walked passed me she was alone too and on the phone.... WE both made eye contact and just stared at each other as we walked by.. i quickly gave a small smile.. she was like staring at me with big eyes.. maybe she liked the way i looked :)

then some how i was "lifted" from inside and Had to get this girl.. but i was shy and afraid that i might have a messed up relationship as before... so as i walked around the mall i was thinking if i see her again.. that i should make a move or not

and as i walked pass the telus store she was inside lookin at the phone ALONE and we both made eye contact but this time she smiled too and i smiled and continue my way out.. i stoped at the door and was thinkign of going up to her and talk but some part of me was telling me it wasnt worth it..

cuz the mall i went to wasnt in my area.. more like 45 min away from me and she must have been from that area

but damn i missed that opportunity

i didnt know what happend
i hope next time i wont do the same thing

but i was thinking to myself.. like if i go up to her i could talk to her for like a min and just tease her.. get he name and stuff and asked a few things like waht she doing here.. but i dont know the girl so i dunno what else to talk a bout and
how long should I keep the converation.. before i ask for the number?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i was readin the bible and found lots of into..

what do you guys do to boost up your confidence..

like my hardest part is actually walkin up to the girl and start talking... if i can do that..

the rest is very easy for me and i never got shut down for a number

but i try to learn the concept of
"nothing to lose" but i just cant get it in my head... i might go to the mall again and see if i can find another girl
 
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Try this.....

Recently I've been doing this(All from the bible)

1. Chat up any woman. Easy target are cashiers, clerks, ect... Go buy a tie, shirt, or what ever and ask a lady there to help you pick it out. Anyone any where. I asked a cutie at Target to show where the hangers were. Like I couldn't find them...lol.
2. Start observing how ladies give you eye contact. I don't even know where to start, but it sounds like you know what I'm talking about.
3. Just get info from her. Where you from? Where do you work? How long? ect... Don't make just questions make statements about what's going on around you. Like if you're standing in front of a book store: "That's a cool book." then follow up with "What kind of books do you like to read?"

Doing this stuff boosts my confidence even if I'm not really interested in the woman. I've turned up 3 woman in 6 days. Not to bad I think. But maybe you could help me with the number close? :) I seem to be the biggest flirt lately, that's what every one is saying. I think I'm stuck on the whole "has it been enough time since my last LTR" block. Who knows.

ADKdj
 
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thats a good trick

for me i never had trouble asking for the number..

you just gotta act busy and u got stuff to do after.. cant just sit there and talk lots because then the girl sees ur not a exciting person... so i just look at my fancy watch and say hey i gotta get going now but i would love to hook up after you got a number i can call you at?

u can say anything just make sure u state the following

1. ur busy--- dont act boring

2. u wanna talk to her again- thats the whole point.. act interested but dont over flow the boat

3. ur not rude but ur not a wussy--dont be a jerk just be a man.. stand up for yourself..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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