Are girls my age (15) used to being approached in public? My biggest fear that stops me approaching people is them being like "what are you talking to me for?'. If every one did it all the time i would have no probelms with it but im not sure they do. Once I get rid of this fear I'm ready to just go and do it. Also, when you go to the mall or whatever to meet poeple arent they going somewhere/doing something so dont they get annoyed by poeple trying to have 5 minute conversations with poeple? What is a good situation to start approaching for the first time (like what kind of shop for example) And also how can you tell how old someone is?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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i suggest that you talk to girls in your class, in the halls or something not some insecure teenage girl.
I'd say aim toward approaching girls in your school for now; that is, until you have more experience with approaching women. The mall might be OK, but if you lack experience with approach, when you try to approach 15 year old girls in public, you may just come off as some loser or weirdo. So, I'd say, you can attempt to approach women in public, just work on doing it in your school first, to get more acquainted with approaching girls.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.