applying boundaries in an instagram generation

[big weezy]

Im finding most women in their 20s are the most attention wh0ring generation as they've grown up with internet and cell phones and proliferation of instagram snapchat twitter in recent years. Before it was just facebook they used for attention seeking but since the launch of apps like tinder and meeting strangers, things like instagram just encourages more and more attention seeking making it 'ok' in their eyes cos everyone does it.

How do you guys set your boundaries around instagram?

Like i can't find a decent attractive girl these days who doesn't instagram.. i mean some don't put body pics up or provocative photos but still the attention seeking is at an all time high.

I read the dj bible about boundaries but it doesn't include all this new stuff.

 

[AttackFormation]

Boundaries is a flawed idea to me. It means you are investing in this woman. Why should you depend on what she does or doesn't do? the reason why you still do, is because you identify your ego with things that stem from her. You rely on her to feel good. You have an ideal that you want to fulfill, but you depend on her to do it. This to me is a vestige of the blue pill - that you can't be complete without her. My mindset I guess could best be described as some sort of Game Buddhism. Yes, you can keep trying to find a "good" girlfriend if you feel like it (or if you have to because you want kids), but ask yourself why? The answer is because your ego is invested in it! Caring about this stuff is totally reasonable if you derive positive or negative self-esteem from it. If your self-esteem depended as much on her as whether you had or didn't have a rock and whether it was painted in pretty colours or not, you wouldn't need to resolve these problems in the first place, because they wouldn't exist.

 

[big weezy]

Boundaries is a flawed idea to me. It means you are investing in this woman. Why should you depend on what she does or doesn't do? the reason why you still do, is because you identify your ego with things that stem from her. You rely on her to feel good. You have an ideal that you want to fulfill, but you depend on her to do it. This to me is a vestige of the blue pill - that you can't be complete without her. My mindset I guess could best be described as some sort of Game Buddhism. Yes, you can keep trying to find a "good" girlfriend if you feel like it (or if you have to because you want kids), but ask yourself why? The answer is because your ego is invested in it! Caring about this stuff is totally reasonable if you derive positive or negative self-esteem from it. If your self-esteem depended as much on her as whether you had or didn't have a rock and whether it was painted in pretty colours or not, you wouldn't need to resolve these problems in the first place, because they wouldn't exist.

I agree with a lot what you say it's more if im trying to settle down have a family with one girl it seems i have to compromise on the looks in order to get a less attention seeking woman?

Im talking marriage kids etc

 

[AttackFormation]

I agree with a lot what you say it's more if im trying to settle down have a family with one girl it seems i have to compromise on the looks in order to get a less attention seeking woman?

Im talking marriage kids etc

All right so we're talking kids (no idea why you would get married). Yes, then you may have to compromise. Women themselves might have to compromise in a similar fashion too, the bad boys they want to fvck aren't the same ones who will stay around and be good dads. But I would recommend two things... first, making sure you don't think some girl "looks better" than another one when it's just make up succeeding at fooling you to think so. Second, if you can get a better wife from a more conservative country than where you're at, something I can't speak for but a lot of other guys do.

 

[wifehunter]

I read the dj bible about boundaries but it doesn't include all this new stuff.

I think boundaries are great, and a healthy way to look at relationships. It's where I stop, and you begin. They act like a filter to keep toxic narcissists away. I would apply the fundamentals to any new situation. Always be prepared!!!

 

[amazingswayze]

It's how they market themselves. Let's say you want a HB8+ that doesn't use instagram.

It's like telling McDonald's to stop airing commercials.

I hate to break it to you but, a girl that meets your standards in 2016 will be a dime in a dozen.

As desdinova says, your best bet is to find a low-mileage girl; and if you want a great personality you will probably have to settle for lower looks. That's how it is OP.