"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anyone else just been in a funk lately?

gimmeyofonenumba

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I built up a real good pipeline of chicks to date. I've just been seeing a few flakes, and alota ignored calls or texts. This is over 8 girls or so. All ranging from about 6's-8's. I dont want a relationship with any of them, but I think they're catching on to that. I'd figure theese girls would be jumping like crazy when I try to make plans, but i think they perhaps have some kinda sense, telling them what Im looking for?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PDubb75

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I was in a funk. It turned around quicker than I can even imagine, and next thing I knew I had 3 girls I could call on any given night, if they hadn't already asked to come over. Just stick with it man, don't get down on yourself.

I found that the girls I had the most fun with are the ones I flat out told I didn't want a relationship. They were upset at first, but still came over multiple times a week. And I was in the clear. Guilt-free sex is sooo much better!
 

Alex DeLarge

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Every girl I've seen since I found this site has flaked and stopped talking to me after 2 to 4 weeks. Sometimes I stop talking to them cause I'm sick of the flaking. I really don't get it, I'm a lot more cool and relaxed than most dudes I see with girlfriends.

I'm not a nice guy, but I'm not a jerk either. I'm usually very respectful on dates with light teasing. Usually I get a kiss on the first date and the girl is super into me.. One day they tell me I'm very handsome and they're really into me, then before I know it they don't return phone calls for a week.
 

Domo_Arigatoo

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Why are you letting the action of some random bytches flaking put you in a funk? BE HAPPY!!! You don't need those bytches approval or validation to make your life great. And if you keep seeking that validation your whole life, then what kind of life are you living?
 

gaspipe

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
I built up a real good pipeline of chicks to date. I've just been seeing a few flakes, and alota ignored calls or texts. This is over 8 girls or so. All ranging from about 6's-8's. I dont want a relationship with any of them, but I think they're catching on to that. I'd figure theese girls would be jumping like crazy when I try to make plans, but i think they perhaps have some kinda sense, telling them what Im looking for?
For me it tends to be in cycles. Now I find myself on the downside with only a couple in the pipeline and these are nothing to write home about (all 6s).

Then when I least expect it I get an influx of 7-8s to work with or one who is good enough for an LTR. 9s are far and few between.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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loveshogun

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Personally, I'm very happy at the moment, but I've noticed the last couple times I've been out I haven't done many approaches. I must investigate...
 

Zarky

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Been in a funk this whole year. The last new puzzy I got was in November of 2010.

I have a couple of leftover MLTRs from 2008 and before, but as for new chicks... nothing. Not really excited about dating right now either (other than hanging with my MLTRs each week). But I've gone through these time before, not a big deal.

It's like the stock market, almost impossible to predict. The only thing I can say for sure is that if I don't approach any chicks I certainly won't get laid.
 

pdx1138

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In the same boat as Alex D.

Fortunately, due to the amount of flaking and getting back to the gym hardcore, I've got a "could care less" attitude on such things.
 
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