"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Anyone else in this position?

satelliteparties

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I get constant headaches over women and lack of sex. I'm not even sure what sex means to me since I haven't had it. It seems the big reason I want it is because it's a challenge and seems nearly impossible to have sex with a hot girl. What's funny is, I'm not one to take on challenges, yet with this, I have some Mulder like quest to do a hot girl...and not even sure why I want it.

Sure, I want to see a naked woman that I'm not paying to see naked, but other than that I have no idea.

I really don't want a girlfriend, unless we actually genuinely clicked and she was decent enough looking where I could enjoy her personality, and I don't even really desire that.

I have softcore porn like fantasies in my head 24/7...and I'm not even sure if I'd like sex.

The problem is, there's no escape. Masturbation is a stun gun.

Just had to vent a little. I usually don't on here...I just feel there is no escape from this problem.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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teddy240

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Its apart of your most primitive instinct as a male. Having sex is a conquest of the male agenda. The more the merrier. Your just doubting millions of years evolution.
 

vagrant

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I feel you man. I haven't had sex for 3 years now. At my age of 24 I feel like I have to have a nice car, house and everything to land a hot woman. Maybe I don't have a life I don't know. Or maybe I need to learn to appreciate me or something.

I know I have a lot issues to deal with. And I'm not the type to settle down just to get some. I only go for hb8 and above.

Only you can tell your situation. You gotta do what you gotta do. I don't think you'll ever find peace until you get to do what you desire. Just don't look desperate. Read the book of pook again and be motivated again...
 

satelliteparties

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I have no idea what I truly want. I know what my hormones want, but I've been at my happiest when I managed to trick myself into thinking attractive women didn't matter or when something happened in my life that was so important or urgent that hormones were put to the side.

I'm an introvert. I don't need much human contact. It seems I just want women so I can take their clothes off.
 

The Experience

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By making one aspect of your life bigger than the rest of your life, you're bound to become unbalanced.

The biggest barrier right now is that you believe you can't change. Before I used to think I'm shy and I'm introverted, this is who I am and how I will always be, if you change your way of thinking you can change the way you act.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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satelliteparties

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I have an obsessive personality in general...and the past few years, especially after briefly dating a couple women and experiencing foreplay, I thought "well what's the intercourse like?" The women I dated...one was "hot" (sure I had to attract her with looks and conversation...but I met her on facebook) the other was an okcupid girl...cute with a really similar personality...so it makes it almost impossible to settle knowing that I got those girls...without being rich, or knowing similar people or anything, just them finding me attractive and interesting.

The truth is, like I said, i don't know what I want. I know that I am curious what it's like to just get in bed with a woman I don't care about but am sexually drawn to and have a fun time, even if for one day/night..but other than that I have no idea.

Don't seem the least bit concerned about being single...like I said I'm a homebody anyway and don't need some girl around my arm to feel validated.
 

Young Juan

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I feel you. I just like to fvck chicks and don't want a gf. Interestingly, I get the chicks I want when I don't chase them.

The/My cycle I've been through a couple times basically goes like this: When I'm actively trying and obsessing over getting chicks, it just becomes a slump that gets worse over and over. Eventually, it no longer becomes fun, seems like work, I retire and go back to just doing me, writing music/working out/playing ball/hangin out with friends. Next thing I know, girls are hitting on me from all angles and I'm dating/about to fvck some chick I've been jockin for way too long. Basically, Book of P-Li confirmed.

Pook is still the man
 
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