In the beggining of this school year, back in September, I had exactly zero friends that were girls because I was simply afraid to talk to them. I learned the hard way, going through a good half of this year being clueless as to girls and becoming social. Don't get me wrong, I've been with girls, but I was rusty going into HS, and pretty much developed this fear after the first year sucked.
I would see guys in my class that would call out, answer all the time, talk during class. It acutally pissed me off because I didn't do any of that. I would get nervous simply sitting next to a girl sharing a book. That's about as bad as you can get, I'm not going to lie. I used to be like alot of you who come here. I saw a quote earlier in a post I was reading, something like: HB: "Can I barrow a pencil?" AFC: "Yes." I WAS AT THAT POINT, YOU CAN CHANGE! As the year progressed, I went about this process the hard way. Eventually I met a girl after school one day. I was surprised she even talked to me, and of course, I stumbled on my words, and was a nervous wreck to say the least. The point is, I can change; you can change too.
Finding sosuave might not have been the greatest day of my life, but it was one of the top 10 moments, even if I didn't know it. Being so nervous around girls, or even guys for that matter, isn't normal. You can change, never think you can't. This site is great, so start small and work you way up.
Everytime you start to get nervous, just remember what you're doing is completely normal, people do it everyday. I saw that line on this site a couple days ago, now that I think about it, it really makes perfect sense.
People talk to pretty girls everyday, so don't worry about it.
People say hi to each other everyday, so don't worry about it.
People make eye contact everyday, so don't worry about it.
Each time there is something that makes you feel nervous, just remember people do it everyday, nothing is wrong, there is no reason to be nervous.
Hope I helped
I would see guys in my class that would call out, answer all the time, talk during class. It acutally pissed me off because I didn't do any of that. I would get nervous simply sitting next to a girl sharing a book. That's about as bad as you can get, I'm not going to lie. I used to be like alot of you who come here. I saw a quote earlier in a post I was reading, something like: HB: "Can I barrow a pencil?" AFC: "Yes." I WAS AT THAT POINT, YOU CAN CHANGE! As the year progressed, I went about this process the hard way. Eventually I met a girl after school one day. I was surprised she even talked to me, and of course, I stumbled on my words, and was a nervous wreck to say the least. The point is, I can change; you can change too.
Finding sosuave might not have been the greatest day of my life, but it was one of the top 10 moments, even if I didn't know it. Being so nervous around girls, or even guys for that matter, isn't normal. You can change, never think you can't. This site is great, so start small and work you way up.
Everytime you start to get nervous, just remember what you're doing is completely normal, people do it everyday. I saw that line on this site a couple days ago, now that I think about it, it really makes perfect sense.
People talk to pretty girls everyday, so don't worry about it.
People say hi to each other everyday, so don't worry about it.
People make eye contact everyday, so don't worry about it.
Each time there is something that makes you feel nervous, just remember people do it everyday, nothing is wrong, there is no reason to be nervous.
Hope I helped