"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Any suggestions on how to improve your vocabulary and writing.

Deadly_Assassin

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One of my goals in life, say within the year is to improve my English. I will be honest in saying that my English is quite bad, while writing and speaking. I want to lose all the slang and my English should sound sophisticated and intelligent.

I have been told that reading books does help. So, I do read on a regular basis. I am reading through the Bond series by Ian Fleming at the moment. Now, it is a good idea to keep a dictionary by your side and look up words that you have never heard of before? Because I have tried it, but most of it only stays in my memory for a day or two.

Any other suggestions?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Reading with a dictionary is a great way to build your vocabulary. To get the words to stick in your head, try using them after learning them. If its not something you find a chance to use in conversation, just make up some sentences using the word and say them to yourself for a few days after learning it. It should stick after that.

Also gradually increase the level of the books you're reading. James Bond is not a bad start but try moving on to more thought provoking books eventually.
 

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Word-a-day calendars.
 

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Thought provoking books? Do you have any recommendations?

Word-a-day calenders. Thankyou 'theunflushables'.
 

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Deadly_Assassin said:
One of my goals in life, say within the year is to improve my English. I will be honest in saying that my English is quite bad, while writing and speaking. I want to lose all the slang and my English should sound sophisticated and intelligent.

I have been told that reading books does help. So, I do read on a regular basis. I am reading through the Bond series by Ian Fleming at the moment. Now, it is a good idea to keep a dictionary by your side and look up words that you have never heard of before? Because I have tried it, but most of it only stays in my memory for a day or two.

Any other suggestions?
Read quality writing. This can be a quality novel or a quality newspaper ... or, really, anything which has a high standard of writing. Pook's and Rollo's posts are written in good English so they'd help you as well.

But I don't think Ian Fleming's novels are chock full of the high standard of English you're looking for. Sure, they make a great read, but not going to help you improve your vocabulary and English skills.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Read more for vocab. Dictionary helps to understand. Don't worry if you don't remember, you will eventually.

Talk more to lose your accent. The more you talk, the faster it goes. Try to emulate the accent you want, helps some.
 

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Ah, the road to sesquipedality. Look up every word you do not know while reading the literaray masterpieces. My friend Lex says writing poetry helps you learn how to use and remember the words however it is not for the pusillanimous. If you do choose to do the latter, burn the evidence when you're finished.
 

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Well.. I'm just finishing up the Fountainhead by Ayn Rand, which was definitely a good read in my opinion and I've heard some of her other books recommended here, so they might be worth looking into.

I'll think of some other recommendations later, its 3 am and I'm going to bed.
 

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Cheers for the replies. I have ordered a word-a-day calendar, and I will be keeping a dictionary by my side while I read.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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