"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Any older males here never ever approached?

warrior1

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'm 21 but have never approached because most of the time I feel nervous and never just talk to random strangers. The other times I actually about to do something... something bad happens like getting ****blocked or i loook horrible that day and not in the mood. But when i feel good on the day, i do open up to people. I don't know... it was like when i was 18 years old I kept practicing on my lines.. just regular openers and whenever i see a woman around my age at the time.. I would think of what to say though it probably be 1 or 2 regular openings. Things like hey I'm so and so whats your name or some other rapport.

But the last 2-3 years, it's like I don't really "look" for women anymore whether its at my college or in the train etc. I remembered how i was so use to be excited when I caught a girl stare at me when I was 18 but now its like I don't even care much. I think I do have some kind of disorder b/c whenever i talk i usually mumble and can't get my words straight and this happens when i talk to my friends too.

So my question are there a lot of men here who has never approached and are a lot older? I find 21 being kind of old if you never approached a woman. However, I read some threads about guys who are in their early 30's and never ever approached a woman or been on a date. I know there are a lot of men who never married in their life and their around 50 plus or so and I wonder what really stopped them from going for it. Is it because of social anxiety? Not sure if thats the right term.

So how much percent of men out there 30 plus never approached a woman or been out on a date? When i was younger, i thought it was small chance but from reading on this board... it makes me think at least 10 percent. Is that a bit to high?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Phyzzle

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I think I do have some kind of disorder b/c whenever i talk i usually mumble and can't get my words straight and this happens when i talk to my friends too
Probably a result of trying to talk too fast so they don't get bored and interrupt you. Typical problem for young people in the U.S. trying to have a conversation.

Check out

http://www.toastmasters.org/

might do you some good.
 

STR8UP

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I won't say that I have NEVER approached, but there haven't been too many times where I have just walked straight up to a chick on the street and started bullsh!tting. Not really my thing, although I'm sure I would do 100x better if I were to decide to get off my lazy ass and do it from time to time.

BTW....I have had plenty of g/f's and such, I just don't get them by hitting on random women. The soft approach is more my thing.
 
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