"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Any chicks totally turned off by guys with no hobbies?

RazorAzoth

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I've been trying to think of something as a new hobby that will open up my social life and make more friends and can't think of any. Unless you count going to the gym (which I honestly can't stand, just do it to stay in shape), I have no other hobbies whatsoever. I just can't seem to find one. I mean I love music...so obviously the thing to do with music as a hobby is to learn an instrument. But I just have no interest in learning how to play one. I enjoy singing, but I'm a really big introvert and would be so shy and uncomfortable joining a band as the vocals. So other than that, what else could you use with music as a hobby to meet people and make friends? Really nothing.

Are chicks really turned off by this? I mean everything book I've read tells you to find something you're passionate about and get a hobby. What if you can't? :confused:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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rushing dude 123

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Then u got bigger problems than girls my friends. Think of all the the things u want to do and do them. U will have obstacles like ur singing that ur shy, so don't give up ur hobby just because of that, get over ur shyness and b a rockstar or whatever u want to be. U can try DJing, dancing loads of stuff with music where u will meet people has well. U could travel thats a hobby. Play a sport, go swimming just make sure not to wrap these hobbies around just for the chicks man. They are urs, do them for urself and if chicks just happened to b there kool. I wud never do something i don't enjoy to meet chicks, actually get a hobby because u want to learn that thing don't force urself. For example I wudn't mind learning to cook good and i am sure theres loads of chicks in cooking classes, so that would b the best of both worlds if u know what i mean. Like if ur interested in yoga which stretches and benefits u after gym u will meet tons of chicks in there.
 
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yea probably. Just like some chicks would probably get turned off by a guy wit no dog

but hobbies should be something for you. not for chicks
 

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RazorAzoth said:
I've been trying to think of something as a new hobby that will open up my social life and make more friends and can't think of any. Unless you count going to the gym (which I honestly can't stand, just do it to stay in shape), I have no other hobbies whatsoever. I just can't seem to find one. I mean I love music...so obviously the thing to do with music as a hobby is to learn an instrument. But I just have no interest in learning how to play one. I enjoy singing, but I'm a really big introvert and would be so shy and uncomfortable joining a band as the vocals. So other than that, what else could you use with music as a hobby to meet people and make friends? Really nothing.

Are chicks really turned off by this? I mean everything book I've read tells you to find something you're passionate about and get a hobby. What if you can't? :confused:
You do have problems. The whole point of the music industry is that you are on stage and everyone is giving you their attention while you are singing/playing/dancing, etc. Music is supposed to be shared, not held inside. If I were you , I would just decide not to be shy anymore and do what you wanted to.
 

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You can do a lot of things in the music industry besides being on stage. For example, booking and promoting few shows for a few bands at a few venues, can get you into a social circle, and meeting people, and such. As long as you do it as a hobby, and arent trying to make money at it, cuz there isnt any, unless a bar hires you to do there booking and promoting, but you would have to prove yourself for free first anyway. Theres also management. Bands need people to take care of business for them. This also gets you the status of the music industry as well. You can learn how to run sound, or be a stagehand (this actually does make money) and hang out with bands and groupies all night. Hell, you can go around filming bands play. It gets you all the free shows you want, and connections.

All of the above things can be done at a very small time level as a hobby, or be taken more seriously if you wish. Either way, its a ticket into social status, and free shows.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Most people aren't brave enough to get up in front of a crowd and sing or rap. Try being brave for once in your life eh? Might change everything.
 

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What kind of sports/outdoor activity do you like?
None? Maybe you haven't been exposed to the right stuff. Watch broadcasts of different sports and you may get to like something.

Then go practice.
 
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