"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Any advice for college parties?

Demystify

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I know most of you will tell me that college parties should be a cinch, but trust me they're not all that easy. So from those who have actually had experience and luck with this, what advice do you give?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Aragon034

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Have Fun?

Seriously, if you go with the mindset of "i want to bang a chick before the night is over" you're probably going to fall flat on your face.

Go with the intention of having fun. don't commit to any one course of action, meet new people... Etc etc...

This way, worst case scenario, you have fun and meet a bunch of new people, you could get numbers, day 2s, invites to other parties yadda yadda.

Best case scenario, a video crew shows up for College **** Fest and you become their newest star.

Just don't get ****faced. You could end up ducttaped to the floor or even worse, "Shlacked"
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Shlack
 

mtlwlu

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mingle, talk to as many people as possible, even guys. If drinking games are going on, try and get on teams with girls easy way to get some neg hits in, kino etc... go have fun, and most importantly go in with no expectations. dont worry about not banging a girl that night, get a number or two, theres lots of school left in the year.
 

foomee

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what aragon said, 'just go out and have fun.'
don't go there to try to impress any girls or anything, have fun and get drunk, do whatever comes natural. you'll become the center of the party as long as you're out there having fun. eventually, later on in the night, find one of the girls at the party and get her alone, outside or something and talk. just don't go there trying to get laid, go there trying to have fun.
 

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Wat these guys said, but just remember...don't use "ONLY HAVING FUN" as an excuse not to game the girls...have fun...but then if u see an opportunity that presents itself...u know what to do ;-)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I am really working on what you guys said. I went through enough parties with the mindset of "getting with a girl" and just "havin fun talk to everyone" to know that the 2nd option is the only one that will work.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Irs88...don't worry my friend...OH YEA...when u meet a girl...hug her(put her arm around her, kiss on the cheek/side of the head)...flirt with her...touch her...check her out in a playful manner...befriend her friends(CRUCIAL)....then isolate her by LITERALLY pulling her with u when ur walking to the couch or whereer...then talk with her for a bit, have fun with her doing it...go for the kiss.....if she declines...don't give up...go for it again....This what seperates it all...the rest of the stuff is logisticis which i myself am having a problem with considering the girls at my school are HEAVILY social conditioned and unless they're pretty drunk...getting them back to my place isn't as easy as say the logistics of a club....where the girls don't have to worry as much about social pressure....considering no one really knows anybody else at a club.
 
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