"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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And here endeth the lesson....

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Another convo in the saga of my ex. She now wants to meet this weekend as she is in town...

: Yo Yo!
NewM : yo yo yo...
: How are yoU?
NewM : Doing greaT
NewM : hows about yoU?
: Good.
: Guess where I'm going to be next week...
NewM : Hmmmm..... XX?
: No - you'll probably never guess.
: Gonna try?
: XXXXX XXXXXX
: Know where that is?
NewM: nope...
: XXXXXX - where we went XXXXXXXing.
NewM : Oh... pretty cool....
NewM : Nice folks
NewM : good growing...
: growing?
: You in town this weekend?
NewM : good growing.... you know, plants ;)
: ah... of course!
: I'm going to be in LA this weekend.
NewM : ahh. very cool....
: Where's your Friday night hangout?
NewM : well it depends...
: what's the ususal? Ever go to XX anymore?
NewM: not in a long time
: Would you rather not see me?
NewM : cu doing what?
NewM : not really into chubby chicks
: :)
: Chat with you later.
: I'm leaving for the night.
NewM: that was fast.....
: Cuz it's late here.
: I IM'd you a LONG time ago.
NewM : Whatever
: Funny!
: I was just going to do that!
: Chat with you tomorrow, perhaps?
NewM : perhaps
: OK - bye!
NewM : bye
: Buh-bye! Buh-bye now. Buh-Bye!



Funny - how when you cut off contact - act indifferent - and concentrate on other sh#t - and other women, how it drives women crazy.

I really regret all the time I wasted on this girl after we broke up. Man, if there is anything to learn from all of this it is it's not worth the time, effort and worry guys waste on these ex's.

If I only new then what I know now.....

I guess we all have to learn the hard way.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Amd like clockwork, she call's last night.

She was in town and had had a couple of ****tails and wanted to know if I wanted to meet up....

Well I didn't. Was playing poker with the guys anyway....

So this morning another phone call.... what are you doing tonight...

ahh.. control
 
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