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An other unexplained b1tch behaviour..pretty blonde inside

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Long story short last saturday went to the club where I started a flirting line with many girls with discreet success, then I see this blonde alone at the bar with a slightly pissed off face and I recalled what Mike32 said about pissed off face of single girls at bar and approached her.

In less than 10 minutes we left the club heading to my place, for some reason there was a feeling outside the physical attraction, she looked so vulnerable and delicate that it almost made me feel the need to take care of her.

She asked me about other girls which attend the bar we met, but I told her I knew such girls only by sight and never talked with them alhtough we are all regular.

Reacher my place we watched some tv while I started running kino, we then drunk some alchool and ate some fruit and few moments later we were at bed, she told me she had her period but Im not sure if it was legit since at first she agreed after I shown her the condoms but told me "she didnt prepare".

At the end I managed to have a very short bl0wjob for few seconds and she then later finished me with her hand while making out, she then stayed all the night with me very close to me on the bed.

Fast forward we texted a little bit but her text altough generous were very time delayed which I consider a red flag, she told me she was coming to the bar today and I told her I woud have come as well like every other day.

Then when I reach her there, I see her dancing with other guys, I try to cross eye with her but she didnt come to say hi, then later she was going alone to smoke and I sign with my hand to come close and she shows an annoyed face and leave....later on she left the place with a plain guy.

Now what the hell is going on? if she didnt like me she would have not answer texts to begin with...let alone telling me where she was going.

I think she either have been turned off from a text the following day where I told her I was thinking about her or her friends which attend that bar as well told her that Im prone to pick up girls regularly...or what else?

What do you suggest me to do now? I think deleting her number to avoid any temptation to complicate things especially cause Im a regular there and I dont need her to show my texts to other girls, Im not angry at her
just annoyed, if she would have just tell me she wants to stay with an other I would have no complained since I often do the same.
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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this is a bar ho, she probably goes home with different guys all the time
 

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foreverAFC said:
this is a bar ho, she probably goes home with different guys all the time
^This.

You found a girl alone who appeared a bit cold / borderline pissed off which is generally a decent sign that she could be DTF. You properly seized the opportunity and had decent attraction from her.

My guess is that her attraction to you was decent, but not super high. She absolutely wanted to fool around and be intimate with you, but wasn't overcome with lust and craving for intercourse.

Usually there are two tiers of attraction:

1. B@ng my puss now -- ONS attraction
2. I'd like to fool around with you and maybe F you at some point -- bf/gf attraction

It sounds like she had you on the border of 1 and 2. It happens.

Was it because she sensed your gentle "take care of her" (essentially a boyfriend-ly) vibe you mentioned or maybe you were close to her physical ONS type, but not exactly it?

My guess is maybe a bit of both (assuming she lied about her period).

At any rate, you did well and went as far as you could. A BJ, HJ, and spending the night is a good night in my book.

After that night together, I don't think anything you did (like txting) mattered. She still viewed it as a one night thing. She liked you, but was still bent on advancing to the next position on her cawk carusel of dudes.
 

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What you found likely was a girl with some serious issue / something very bad happening in her life. She wanted some distraction that night (male attention) which you duly provided. Later on, she did not want to revisit the bad feelings of the same night again, and seeing you will bring them back, which is why she avoids you.

The kind of girls who seeks that sort of attention to get out of a funk is not the kind you want to really know or waste time analysing anyway. She's fvcked up, and fvcked up girls act that way (hot cold, bipolar-y) that's all you need to know.
 

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Mike32ct said:
^This.

You found a girl alone who appeared a bit cold / borderline pissed off which is generally a decent sign that she could be DTF. You properly seized the opportunity and had decent attraction from her.

My guess is that her attraction to you was decent, but not super high. She absolutely wanted to fool around and be intimate with you, but wasn't overcome with lust and craving for intercourse.

Usually there are two tiers of attraction:

1. B@ng my puss now -- ONS attraction
2. I'd like to fool around with you and maybe F you at some point -- bf/gf attraction

It sounds like she had you on the border of 1 and 2. It happens.

Was it because she sensed your gentle "take care of her" (essentially a boyfriend-ly) vibe you mentioned or maybe you were close to her physical ONS type, but not exactly it?

My guess is maybe a bit of both (assuming she lied about her period).

At any rate, you did well and went as far as you could. A BJ, HJ, and spending the night is a good night in my book.

After that night together, I don't think anything you did (like txting) mattered. She still viewed it as a one night thing. She liked you, but was still bent on advancing to the next position on her cawk carusel of dudes.

Well that explains a few situations I've had... Weird. I guess you just gotta take what you can and don't expect much
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's a bar ho. Emotionally fcked. Her ego or whatother ****ed up **** had her thinking you were there cos she said she was going, like you are clinging just cos of sexy stuff. Sex probably means nothing to this girl. It sounds like a girl I used to know who accused me of only going to a bar cos she was. If you wanna hit this again, play it cool, don't seek her eye contact but do be seen being social with other girls. This may bring out her competitive side as she probably thinks SHE is the sh1t at this bar. I'm only relaying from my own experience but while reading that it really reminded me of someone.
 

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Jitterbug said:
What you found likely was a girl with some serious issue / something very bad happening in her life. She wanted some distraction that night (male attention) which you duly provided. Later on, she did not want to revisit the bad feelings of the same night again, and seeing you will bring them back, which is why she avoids you.

The kind of girls who seeks that sort of attention to get out of a funk is not the kind you want to really know or waste time analysing anyway. She's fvcked up, and fvcked up girls act that way (hot cold, bipolar-y) that's all you need to know.
Now that you tell me that,I recall she told me she was not having a good time cause her flatmate was moving to England leaving her alone while the friend she came that same night left her alone at the bar.

Makes sense what you say, but I think Mike32 has a point as well when he talks about decent attraction but not super high, probably it was a mix of the emotional need and that medium/high sexual attraction.

There's something which surprised me anyway, when I put her hand on my c0ck she didnt even pretend to not want it as most of the girls do, just like when I came it seemed like my *** on her hand was not a big deal, she even went to the toilet to take some paper and helped me to clean.
 
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