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An interesting opportunity in class

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In my History class the final project is going to be a group presentation. Sitting next to me are three girls that are friends with each other. I’ve made very light small talk with each of them over the course of the semester. Seeing an opportunity I asked if there was room for one more. When we were talking one of the girls actually growled at me like a lioness protecting her pride, at least that’s why I think she was doing it. It was so cute :p They were all happy to have me join their group and we were joking around and just having a good time until class ended.

So here is my situation. The final project is due in a month, and I’m in a group with 3 girls that know each other and I’m basically the outsider but I have been talking to them for several months so they know me. Two of the girls are pretty cute. One’s a white girl and the other is Asian. The other chick has a kid and isn’t attractive so I don’t consider her a possibility.

My goal is to hook up with the white girl or the Asian without causing a lot of drama and or failing the class. Is it doable and if so how?
 

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So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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If I were you, I would pick one of the girls, and focus on her. IMO since the three of them seem to be pretty close, and you are an outsider, if you go after both of them you will get shot down.

That said, you should build rapport with all three, but with the one you pick, be really C&F with her, initiate kino, etc. Joke around with her more than the other two. You can easily get all of their contact info since you are doing a group project.

I think you should wait to make a major move until after the project though. If things go wrong, you wouldn't want your grades to suffer. Anyway, you will have built up a good amount of rapport, and by this time, the girl you are interested in should be attracted to you, if not all three of them. This is where you call her up and take things to the next level.
 

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I plan to get all of their contact info on Monday. It's basically a requirement for a group project. Should I wait to see which one of them shows the most interest or should I just pick a target and focus on her while keeping rapport with all three?

It does make sense to not go for the kill before the presentation. But also I want to strike while the iron is hot.

Either way I need to show all of them that I'm a great guy and that's what I'm mostly concerned with.
 

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Yeah man, just engage the whole group...flirt with them all, and pick the one you like best (and I'm not gonna lie....it's usually the one who shows the most interest at this point, isn't it? lol).

How long is the project gonna last? Because you don't want it to drag out for too long, they might lose interest.
 

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Becareful with this one cuz you might get friend zoned.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

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She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The last day of class will be May 20 something.
I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Becareful with this one cuz you might get friend zoned.
That's exactly why I made this thread.
 

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Update:

Today only one of the girls showed up. It was the Asian girl. I ended up butchering her name. When she was writing something in her notebook I took it and tried to guess her race and failed. Turns out she's Korean which wasn't one that I said to her.

We talked a little bit before and a bit more after class. She laughed at almost everything I said. I took her number and she said something that she felt special because she was the first person to written down in my assignment book. I told her she should be honored. She gave me her cell phone I punched in my number then she wanted me enter my name into it also.

She wants to work with me in the library and we were trying to figure out how that would work due to our different schedules. We talked till 5 min after class then she had to go to her next class. Things felt like they were going so well that I would have suggested we go to the cafeteria for lunch if she didn't have class.

So I think I picked the one I like best but I don't want to limit myself. The other chick has a hot body. Also I try not to get excited about anything. Hence my sig.

The next day of class is Friday and the rest of the girls should show up. I'll need to get their numbers as well.

I think I might suggest a weekend study session but I'm not sure.

I have a vague feeling that the Korean chick may be interested. Or she could just be nice.
 

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Maxtro said:
Update:

Today only one of the girls showed up. It was the Asian girl. I ended up butchering her name. When she was writing something in her notebook I took it and tried to guess her race and failed. Turns out she's Korean which wasn't one that I said to her.

We talked a little bit before and a bit more after class. She laughed at almost everything I said. I took her number and she said something that she felt special because she was the first person to written down in my assignment book. I told her she should be honored. She gave me her cell phone I punched in my number then she wanted me enter my name into it also.

She wants to work with me in the library and we were trying to figure out how that would work due to our different schedules. We talked till 5 min after class then she had to go to her next class. Things felt like they were going so well that I would have suggested we go to the cafeteria for lunch if she didn't have class.

So I think I picked the one I like best but I don't want to limit myself. The other chick has a hot body. Also I try not to get excited about anything. Hence my sig.

The next day of class is Friday and the rest of the girls should show up. I'll need to get their numbers as well.

I think I might suggest a weekend study session but I'm not sure.

I have a vague feeling that the Korean chick may be interested. Or she could just be nice.
Flirt lightly with the other girls when they come back...I think it may have worked out to your advantage that only one showed up today....you were able to develop some rapport with her. I know you don't wanna limit yourself, but it will be VERY hard to "game" all of them. And if you wait, you'll fall into the friend zone....
 
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