An Ethical Dilemma

[Suicide]

Hey guys. I'm going to pose an ethical question here.

Say one happened to, accidentaly, gain access to their girlfriend's email account. Now, while not snooping around per say, the headline of a certain email caught their eye and they opened it to discover something discomforting. This discomforting email hints at something that, if true, the girlfriend has been seriously lying about for the duration of the relationship, and would be sufficient cause (on your end) to end it. Do you bring it up? ?Do you mention it? How do you explain yourself reading her email without her knowing? Do you just politely end the relationship without a reason, or ask for an explanation--you're not absolutely sure, but you're 90%. Do you hold off and investigate further until you have absolute proof? The rest of your relationship has been going perfectly and you like the girl intensely, but if this proves true she obviously could be lying about other issues as well.

Suggestions, gents?

 

[KontrollerX]

If I found out something like that I honestly would probably just keep ******* her.

Of course all the while doing this acting like the relationship is still great I would be on the lookout for someone better and once I found that person I would break up with this chick cruelly telling her she's not attractive enough anymore for my standards.

If I didn't find someone else better and she eventually broke up with me like this woman will probably do to you eventually I would tell her cool and calm like that I know whats been going on with her and the other guy if thats the reason she gives me and then I'd tell her to have a nice life acting like I didn't really care about the relationship we had.

Then I'd keep looking for other chicks to date once I found a regular to date she'd probably hear about it and get intensely attracted to me again.

Then from that point it'd be up to you whether to take her back on your terms or not.

I've seen this advice post I just made actually happen with people strange as it is.

It works.

 

[\O/]

You need to be sure before doing somthing drastic. I would see that little bit of info as sufficient to get a "warrant" which allows you to keep monitoring her e-mail in case you find enough evidence to close the case.

If I had felt certain that she was guilty of whatever you implied, I would just end the relationship without an explanation. When she asks ( which ofcourse she will) I would say "I think you know why".. the end.

 

[MVP]

I can't answer you if it's "ethical". I guess ethicially speaking you should always be honest, but sometimes maybe it's better not to be honest about reading someone else's email unless you're ok with her getting angry with you. Basically it would mean she did something bad (potentially) and you did something bad, and it doesn't cancel each other out. Both parties will be pissed at the other person.

If you want to be practical in solving this, maybe suggest that you feel something isn't right like you have a 6th sense about it.

 

[Suicide]

Yeah. I guess I'll keep investigating before I jump to any harsh conclusion, although it's looking grim. It's actually about a drug problem. Anyone know anything about anti-depressant addiction?

 

[Derek Flint]

I get a lot of spam from online pharmacies, addiction recovery clinics, viagra, etc...

Is this what we're talking about, or something different?

 

[penkitten]

anti depressant meds are not really habbit forming
lexapro, prozac, welbutran, paxil, zoloft, and many others.

anti depressants are not something you take to get high , its not like pot to slow you down and its not like speed to speed you up.

they keep your ceratonin levels in your mind in balance so that you can function normally without depression or anxiety problems.

does this chick have a prescription from a dr or has she been seeing a therapist?
if so, then she is on the up and up.

if she didnt tell you how long she was taking it, or if she missed a pill, she is just embarrassed and doesnt want you to think she is crazy.

the thing about missing pills is this,
no matter what is wrong with you , you never forget to take your heart medication or blood pressure medications but for some reason, everyone who takes medicine for depression gets up one day when it is working and doesnt feel depressed anymore and suddenly thinks they should stop using the meds because they are ok.

 

[LeviathanIYG]

It would help if you explained the situation more thoroughly....

What the hell are you doing looking at your GF's email account anyway lol?

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by LeviathanIYG
It would help if you explained the situation more thoroughly....

What the hell are you doing looking at your GF's email account anyway lol?

sometimes one is tempted and just seeks out information .

 

[Suicide]

The situation is thus:

She's told me quit harshly that she's never been on that sort of medication and so forth. Yet, in her email are what look like receipts from those shady "no prescription needed" websites for large orders of Paxil. So...I just get a weird feeling that she's not being completely honest sometimes and...

 

[aftershock]

I thought that you meant she was cheating. If that was the case I'd next her.

But it sounds like she needs help more than anything.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Suicide
The situation is thus:

She's told me quit harshly that she's never been on that sort of medication and so forth. Yet, in her email are what look like receipts from those shady "no prescription needed" websites for large orders of Paxil. So...I just get a weird feeling that she's not being completely honest sometimes and...

well if she is buying anti depressant meds online , she is either hiding it from everyone so they dont think she is crazy or her dr has said she doesnt really need meds but yet she wants them anyhow so she orders them online unless she just has no insurance to go to the dr.

a girl who lies about taking anti depressants ( saying she isnt when she is buying them online) is a girl who will start doing meth with your money when you are out working and your future kids are asleep.

if she really needs them and she is just embarrassed then she probally should come clean about it, however something seems really shady.
are you sure that someone else didnt order them and just use her email as verification? like one of her parents or something??