An Arguement in Favor of Approaching

[everywomanshero]

For all the guys reading these conflicting reports on cold approaches, I think we should lay out some basic guidelines for what to expect. Perhaps, this will clear up some misunderstandings:

1) Cold Approaches have a low-rate of success.

a) In part this is by intention. You aren't going to be into every chic that you meet. Most will show low-interest or otherwise get ruled out. Talking to women is fun. The object isn't to get every single one of these women in bed in 15 minutes or less.

B) without the approach you had 0% success with these women since you had never spoken with them.

2) Deperation/One-tis

a) Desperation/hopelessness/one-itis are devastating to men emotionally. Women can smell desperation a mile away for it is truly the worst cologne.

b) It's fun to talk to lots of women and be a confident, friendly man.

3. Dating truly is a numbers game

a) Of course technique matters. As does looks, style, hygeine, etc. However, you can have all of the above and still see 0 results unless you get some numbers going.

b) The more women you chase, the less time you have to get depressed or screw up existing chases.

Approaching doesn't have to mean using some rigid structure. Although, you can use those at times, often just being friendly & flirty can provide you with new friends, dates, and sex. Approaching along with knowing how to talk to women is the corner stone of succeeding with women. For the life of me, I cannot see how anyone could fail to realize this.

Without this, you pretty much are stuck with a life of one one-itis after another.
Child support/alimony payments are a major threat to anyones security. I'd be very careful about walking the path of one-itis and its effects. Just my opinion, I could be wrong.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

I agree there are so many guys on my job that have to pay child support/alimony. I'll stay single and spend the money on a 645 beamer.

 

[lavhoes]

I never approach seeking a phone number; it's pretty obvious when I, or others, do. I like to approach because it's fun meeting new people, and my natural curiosity about the people I see around is an itch I love to scratch.

So I go up to the people who look interesting and strike up a conversation. Numbers only come into play if they seem like they're worth talking to later on, and sometimes I don't even have to ask; they've got their phone out before I could even think to get their number. Dates, friendships, and good times follow, with no stress of having to perform just to pick up.

If you see it as more of a temporary exploration into the lives of those around you instead of a make-or-break test of your looks, confidence, and self-esteem, you'll definitely "do better," if there is such a thing when you're being laid back about it. Approaching, well, cold approaches with the mindset that you have to nab some hot babes or you're an utter failure will just make you hardened towards rejection, which is nice enough on its own but it teaches you very little about how to communicate positively with those around you. Try looking at it as though you're a man of the world and take pleasure in getting to know those around you; you approach these girls not because you want to pork the hell out of them (you could be doing that right now anyway), but because they make you curious. Putting any sort of pressure on yourself to get their number is just another way of putting them on a pedestal, which is exactly what we're trying to avoid.