An Alpha Female

[KPS]

Hey Guys,

New to this forum i have a question on how to go about this situation i've encountered.

So I moved to a new country and only a handful of people speak english. So i met up with this group of Expats and this hot girl right off the bat is giving me interest. So i play it cool the next time i see her and she finally cracks and wants to hangout sometime. So she starts texting me and calling me and it seems we always spend everyday together. Its been a blast the whole experience to say the least shes really fun flirty and outgoing. We started getting physical and everything seemed amazing she said i was the best shes ever been. she even initiated being in a relationship so I agreed. One night we were at the cafe and she started being flirty with one of her many guy friends. For some reason i felt the jealousy which usually never rears its ugly head. I found myself attached to this girl for that moment. So what did i do the next day... i dumped her telling her she wasn't girlfriend material for me. I still liked her but for some reason i dumped her because of my insecurity and myself getting attached to her. So basically she became all emotional and I caved in the next the day and told her forget about what i said last night and that i really liked her. She said you cant do that to me now I don't trust you anymore. That week we made plans to meet up 2 or 3 times and she flaked on me and started phoning and texting me less. So the stupid AFC thing.. i called her out on it. And told her quit playing games. Basically she said she just wanted to be friends with me until she gains her "trust in me again". Well I told her I cant just be friends with you and she was insistent on being friends. So time to move on but I still like this girl.

So i went No contact for 1 day so far and she texts me today.

Hey B how are you today? hows your day been?


Havent texted back

Not sure what to do about this I completely lost my frame.

Should i text back or completely ignore? Is this worth salvaging?

Any help would be much appreciated

Background on this girl she is a strong girl has a lot of male and female friends. Very outgoing has a busy life and very independent. I suspect there might be an ex in the equation.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Believe it or not, you actually did the right thing, and have nothing to apologize for.

Real talk, if a girl is dating you, she should have the courtesy not to flirt with other guys - and if she is, at the very least she shouldn't be doing it in your presence. I guarantee she'd feel some kind of way if you were being flirty with her or your other girl "friends."

Where you faltered, though, was allowing her to put a guilt trip on you. Think about the situation: SHE flirts with other dudes, and then says she can't trust YOU? How backwards does that sound?

Anyway... so, while I don't recommend going back to her (I don't believe in dating girls I can't trust not to flirt with others behind my back), if you ARE trying to get her back, the best thing you can do is NOT contact her.

Now, this doesn't mean you can't respond back if she hits you up. What it means, though, is that you should not be the one going out of your way to initiate contact. If she text you... well, I'm of the belief that texting KILLS relationships, but if she sends you a message, make your text back to her very short, and don't get into a messaging session with her. She needs to think you have other stuff going on (which you should anyway).

But yeah, don't initiate calls or text. It can take a while, but if she ends up wanting you back she'll let you know. I once broke up with a girl and then wanted her back, and she gave me the same "we should just be friends for now 'cause trust has been broken" speech. I simply said "ok," hugged her, walked her back to her car and said to myself, "yeah, I'm not trying to be friends with this chick, SCREW that!"

So what did I do? I stopped contacting her. She would hit me up twice a week to chat, and I'd talk to her on the phone for 10 minutes before coming up with an excuse to hang up. By the third week, SHE was inviting ME to go out dancing, where we ended up hooking back up. All because I was able to show that, in terms of us getting back together, I didn't care about the outcome.

So, be patient - let her come to you, and start going after other women in the meantime. Hope this helps!

 

[youngmack]

This girl is just like my current oneitis ex. Shes an "alpha" but shes also a Histrionic (histrionic personality disorder). For some reason they're good at most of the things they do in life.

If you let her out-game you she will FUCC YOU UP! trust me bro. What got me fucced is the fact that my oneitis was playing games with me and i aint pick up on it, i was losing the frame all the time. I was an AFC and emotional.. HPD's or alpha females are freaking good at what they do, they know the game very well

I suggest if you dont got your sh1t together just next her, But if you really want her for whatever reason you gotta game harder bruh. Dont reply to this text..Its only been a day. Use this time to do you, or talk to some other broads. Anything rather than reply. And dont give in.the temptation is crazy

 

[VladPatton]

SHE flirts like a ho-ho with another dude and SHE has trust issues with YOU? WTF, man, does that sound right to you? She did the ole flip-a-roo- on your ass. Hold your own, and don't let her get to you or have control over the relationship from this point on. YOU should be the one pissed at her. If she wants to play with other guys by all means let her go. Tell her to have fun. See ya! Indifference is your best pal. A bad girl will cheat on you while still holding your hand.

Last thing you want is to walk in after a long day and find your hot gf getting plastered by one of her "guy friends". Be careful with this one and take caution. Don't let her out-game you with guilt and maintain your integrity.

Good luck.

 

[C-quenced]

What you described isn't alpha. It's just a typical female. The only game a women needs is a cute face, a gorgeous rack, slim, nice legs and a perfectly round ass along with a way to stroke a mans ego.