"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

American in London

Thread starter CaliGuyInLondon
Start date Feb 16, 2008

CaliGuyInLondon

Don Juan

Feb 16, 2008

Hey guys. I'm somewhat new to this whole Don Juan thing, but loving everything I'm reading/learning. I'm from California but living in London for a bit now. I wanted to go out tonight but didn't want to go out alone and all my American friends are out of town for the weekend. I was wondering if anyone in the UK wanted to go out and chill and try to pick up some ladies. Let me know! Thanks!

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.