Am I over reacting

[OlympicTim]

I met this girl probably 2 weekends ago didnt make out. Or anything but we were holding hands and started texting her the other day and weve been flirting etc.

Anyways so I asked her out and she told me she was seeing somebody.

At first i just shook it off because it wasnt a big deal. Then it kind of dawned upon me that shes either

A) Been flirting with me and leading me on when she knows shes "seeing someone"

B) Lying about seeing someone so she had an excuse to say no.

So it pissed me off and so I called her out and texted her saying that she shouldnt be flirting with me if shes "seeing" someone because hes probably a good dude and thats ****ty to do someone.

Do you guys think I'm over reactting or should I just stop talking to her because shes obviously just a tease with no intention of hooking up.

 

[Cartman008]

"At first i just shook it off because it wasnt a big deal."

Just should of stuck with your first decision. With girls if ya get em great, if you don't, so what. Don't get pissed off or upset or bummed out. And don't let them know if you do feel any of the above. They feed off that. In a jokingly or un jokingly way you should of said "Ok, beat it" and left it at that. That gets her thinking and wondering if your serious and now intrigued. I am definitely an over thinker and would of made out a lot better in situations just keeping my mouth shut.

 

[pyros]

the majority of women act like her.

Just accept it and dont waste time 'flirting' with a girl via text. You text her once, chat a bit, and ask her out. If she says any other thing but 'yes', you forget about her unless she reaches out.

This is the efficient way.


P.S.

Yes, you over-reacted and the worst thing is that...what was the point? to make her 'understand' that she acts badly? so what? she doesnt care about what you say, so there is no point in telling her that.

You're not her father, not her bf, not her boss.

 

[Reykhel]

I met this girl probably 2 weekends ago didnt make out. Or anything but we were holding hands you should have at least progressed to kissing and started texting her the other day and weve been flirting etc.

Anyways so I asked her out how? a "date"? Invite her to tag along with you to something you're already doing. Keep it casual and not about her and she told me she was seeing somebody. Maybe she is maybe she's not....so what?

At first i just shook it off because it wasnt a big deal. Exactly. Then it kind of dawned upon me that shes either

A) Been flirting with me and leading me on when she knows shes "seeing someone"

B) Lying about seeing someone so she had an excuse to say no.

So it pissed me off Get a life and so I called her out your not her daddy and she doesn't care and texted her saying that she shouldnt be flirting with me if shes "seeing" someone because hes probably a good dude and thats ****ty to do someone. Let go of this morality bull**** and trying to control other people

Do you guys think I'm over reactting YES or should I just stop talking to her because shes obviously just a tease with no intention of hooking up.

You don't know that....if this was a shvt test....you failed.

I never understand this "calling out" strangers on their behaviour bs. It's like if you phoned Castro and said "hey Fidel, this Communism lark, I don't think it's good man, I think you should change". Fidel to you "Go fvck a duck, kid"

The ol "I'm seeing someone" or "I've got a boyfriend" line could be true or it could be a defense mechanism or delaying tactic...ie she's not convinced about you....

You need to have a few stock answers such as:
"I was just looking to make friends, I thought you looked friendly.....or maybe needy I can't tell"
or the well known
"Good, he'll keep you busy when I'm not around"

....and continue with the interaction....UNFAZED.

 

[OlympicTim]

Alright thanks guys i said sorry to her but she probably wont forgive me oh well.

One thing I learned from this is my gut knew what to do (be unfazed and go find a new girl) but my emtions got in ans made me act stupid. Which is probably a problem I have in general I need to start trusting my first instincts and not my emtions.

 

[Reykhel]

Alright thanks guys i said sorry to her but she probably wont forgive me oh well. I like the oh well

One thing I learned from this is my gut knew what to do (be unfazed and go find a new girl) but my emtions got in ans made me act stupid. Which is probably a problem I have in general I need to start trusting my first instincts and not my emtions.

good stuff

Awesome Tim man.

So it was a positive learning experience. Remember what they say: the game is played in field. So the lessons you learn in field are the ones that you can refer back to from your own personal experience. Nothing stronger than that.

Have you read/listened to "The 48 laws of Power"? The introduction talks about "learning the game of power" and one of the fundamentals is exactly what you've said: learning to control your emotions.