"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Am i making this too compilcated then it is?!

josh11

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Hey Guys,

After recently moving from New York to Europe i started to fancy this girl. We work in the same company different departments, to try to make it short and sweet it seems im getting good signals...Whats keeping me making some kind of move is someone told me she has a boyfriend (Maybe its not that serious)..Signs im getting

We always flirt, whenever i get to the copy machine, always chat make her laugh
Always says hi to me (waves) etc, she never does this to anybody else i noticed
After coming back to work/ weekend always asks me how my weekend was?What did i do (Why the hell do you care?!):rolleyes: Its nice she cares
Was able to get lunch once, after a nice convo, we were leaving cafeteria She says you gotta finish/tell me rest of the story next time (blushes a bit), before that asks till what time im working today (Once again why do you care?!
Our first intial contact where this kind of flirting started was when i was walking down the hall, and she was coming back i kept looking at her and just as about we were passing each other i kept the eye contact longer and looked at the corner of my eye and she did same as we passed each other with very slight smile

Question, is she really being that nice/flirty?!?! Or am i missing the most obvious cmon signs?!

Any tips, what to do/say when once again im at that copy machine and we are making small talk laughing?!? thx
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DJCorleone

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josh11 said:
After coming back to work/ weekend always asks me how my weekend was?What did i do (Why the hell do you care?!):rolleyes: Its nice she cares

, before that asks till what time im working today (Once again why do you care?!



Any tips, what to do/say when once again im at that copy machine and we are making small talk laughing?!? thx
1. Read the dj bible

2. the two quotes i bolded, EVERY place i've worked MOST people ask me these questions, its just conversation...
 

kingy

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dude point blank period dont date someone from work its always messy. you should be there to work and play comes after.

there is too much at stake,

if you dont like your job then invite her out to drinks with the rest of the office and see where it goes. if your game is good then at the end of the night the others will start to go home and its just you and her.

the way you are talking sounds like u are very outcome dependant so i would recommend you leave it completely and get out with other poooahhs for a bit.
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

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1. Don't mess with people at work, it NEVER ends well.

2. Work your inner game, shake that outcome dependency.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Tazman

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Don't concern yourself with a bf unless she brings it up as if to say she isn't available.

Would it be a problem avoiding her at work if this doesn't work out? You have to consider the fact that this could affect your livelihood if she's the vindictive type. Also, you need to make sure you aren't violating any company policies in the process. As you've heard, it's not really a good idea to get involved with women at work who could potentially cause you problems AT work.
 
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