Alex's journal to becoming a better man

[AlexParadox]

Name:Alex
Age: 16
Personal Assesment on Don Jaun level (10 being the best): 7
Mission:
to become a better man, person, and womanizer.

Hello students and don juans of sosuave.net, my name is alex and this is my journal to taking a few extra steps up the ladder of life. Whats the point of me writing down my observations/experiances/challenges?
well one day i was in the car with my mom getting driven somewhere, and i saw the local running club out on their usual route. ****ily I commented:
"whats the point of paying money to go run around the block?"
my wise mother replied:
"That's not the point Alex, the point is a simply setting yourself up for a sort of peer pressure. So if one day you dont feel like running and bail, your conscience will bug you in the knowledge that you should have gone, and people aren't going to be impressed that you bailed. In other words, making a commitment"

So if you haven't figured out already, i'm trying to almost force myself to get better, to beat laziness, and to not let down the french guy living in new york who might be following my progress.

a little about me:
Im 6'2, 150 pounds (tall and skinny.. but come on, im 16)
ive got a very "model look" face, that has scored me a modeling agency in vancouver. ive got green eyes that girls love to comment on saying how pretty they are.
in other words: im the above average looking guy

girls have never been a big problem for me, im not a virgin, ive been seeing girls regularly since middle school, no girl intimidates me, and im constantly seeing someone or have a fvck buddy somewhere.

so whats the problem, you ask?
well, the real problem is, im not exactly exposed to a constant pool of new resources (girls). I go to a small (450 people) traditional school (in other words: uniforms, emphasis on education, horrible sports teams, and tons of nerds) where the majority of students are hard core nerdy, with a small percentage that are either rebels forced by their parents to go, or normal kids who have kissed the opposite sex, play sports, and actually do something other then school in their spare time. no new kids ever really show up, its not a private school, and the same group of kids have been in this school system since kindergarten (i joined up in grade 6... actually more like my mom joined me up)
bottem line: no attractive girls
honestly, the few attractive ones (three in total), are my close friends who id probly go crazy without.

as for work, i work at a amusement park in walking distance from my house,
specifically i work on go karts as the head operator for the building. In other words: no opportunity for approaching on job.

well enough about the b!tching.
what i want to work on?

-getting out more, without my friends, so i have opportunities to make moves
-expanding my pool of attractive girls from other schools so i can slowly make my way into dating numerous girls from other schools
-staying in the "zone", in other words: being suave in my life in what i do everyday
-finding zen everyday so i dont loose my head (i meditate daily)
-completely stop masturbating (i have streaks of up to 2-3 weeks, but then a failed shagging will end up with me jerking it once i come home to relieve my anxiety)
+what ever else i can think of as i continue forth

how am i gonna achieve this?
-regular posts with (hopefully) regular feedback and criticism
-setting goals
-have a weekly schedule of uplifting reading material
+what ever else i can think of as i continue forth

Dead line:
as long as it takes

 

[AlexParadox]

Food for thought:
after skillfully acquiring a perfect copy of wanted and watching it last night, the closing question definitely gets me thinking:

"this is me taking back control of my life...what the fvck have you done latley?

"

 

[AlexParadox]

The playa mentality:

-Girls are never priority
girls should never consume your whole week. have a life, dont just read a couple article on here and decide to commit the rest of your life to girls. It makes you look less desperate and more interesting. Imagine what a stunner would be thinking when you turn down a date to go play basketball with some buds, total ego shock. And if you have been doing your homework: will make her want you more since you are now a challenge

-You are the sh!t, and no one is gonna tell you otherwise
You are THE MAN, a special individual with total confidence in himself and everything he does. Girls can sense real confidence, pulling it off is not as hard as you think. If you dont look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself either of the following (everyone has there own spin):
A) im one good looking guy!
B) im THE man!
C) these girls better be ready to get to know mr.sexy!
then you need to work on inner game (the examples are just to give you a idea)

its a proven mental trick that if you constantly say: i can/will do it, instead of i may/might/maybe do it. Your chances of succeeding are greater

-

"What’s the problem I don’t see no ring on your hand"

all girls are on the market, boy friend or not
never feel like girls with boyfriends are off limits, remember: you are THE MAN, nothing should stop you.

-never focus on one girl
there should always be multiple interests, so that if one day your out with girl A, and things turn sour. Your not gonna be beating yourself about it, cuz you know that you can call up girl B and have a great time.

-Never think the relationship will last (ALLWAYS have a backup girl)

-theres ALLWAYS someone better
Dont cry over losing a girl. On the flipside, the girl should be crying over you.

-Allways look fly
if you look in the mirror and dont think you look good, keep trying on different things untill you think you are gonna get comments from girls (good comments)

along with looking good, dont forget about the other senses
you should smell good as well, your hair must be washed daily, wear deodorant or anti perspirant.

-Dont take sh!t
if a girl is giving you a hard time, or is doing something you dont like. grow a pair and do something about it. you are THE MAN, you dont take sh!t from girls.

-Dont stop when you start dating
this happens often:
boy gets girl, boy stops being in the "game" cuz he feels safe and secure, stops flirting with girls, stops being THE MAN. Allways be expanding your horizon with new girls or "potential girls".

-Label girls as soon as you meet them
girls you meet should be organized into the following:

NO POTENTIAL
these are the uglies, who make good friends. which in turn can introduce you to hotter girls

POTENTIAL
these are the girls who potentialy could be interested in you, or you potentialy can start something with her. These are the girls with boyfriends, girls who are DTF (down to fvck) but arnt the hottest.

TARGETS
these are the girls who you are looking for, the ones that you dream of being in relationships with, or that you dream of one night stands with. These are the girls you try to focus on.

 

[AlexParadox]

So my biggest goal recently is just getting to know/chatting/small talk random girls
in the dj bootcamp its one of the few babysteps:
something along the lines of just saying hi to random people girls or not.

well im gonna take it further
so my goal right now is just to talk to attractive girls ive seen. Sometimes i find that it works even better then you would think. Since the girl most likely (if you look like a creeper, arn't confident enough) is gonna throw up a b!tch shield, shes gonna be stunned that all you want to do is small talk, no seduction, no anything. Your just an alpha male passing through

today's report:

Going to the gorcery store, see this hb8 working as cashier
as she finishes helping the last customer, i approach with the stuff i bought
Alex: looks like your having fun *sarcastically with a sly smile*
hb8: *sigh* yeah, tell me about it
Alex: well i work on go karts at such and such, so it defiantly doesn't compare
hb8: *smiles* yeah no kidding, how much are you getting paid there?
Alex: well not braging or anything, but such and such
hb8: hah well your pobably do more there then here
Alex: hah *looks at other cashiers looking bored working* yea no kidding, do any guys work as cashier? (all the cashiers were girls)
hb8: no, the hiring manager is sexist only hires girls
Alex: ah
*finishes the debit payment*
Alex: (noticing that other people came to pay) aright have a good one *smile*
hb8: Yeah you too
as i walk away i force myself not to look back as if small talk with gorgeous girls happens daily, i can tell she was checking me out

debriefing:
-shoulda closed the conversation with: dont have too much fun!
-will probably drop by again sometime next week with something along the lines of:
You again?! I thought you would have quit and tried applying at my work after hearing what i was making! *shocked face*

pros:
-oozed confidence, everything was casual and easy going
-opportunity for a "next time"

cons:
-no real opportunity for any kind of kino, or eye contact
-not enough time

summary:
bad location for any further talk, but hey probably made her shift worth it. Since how many guys would even attempt a conversation with the gorcery store clerk.

the same day evening, my friends and i were stopping by a gas station as we are pulling in i see a two hb7's and a hb6, one hb7 was riding a sweet pink bike.
as we approach the doors they show up

Alex: that is SUCH A COOL BIKE
hb7: haha thanks
Alex: like seriously, tell me where you got it!
hb7: blah blah blah (out of town)
Alex: gah, too far, but i want one!
group: *laughs*

as we exit, the girls are still in line, i notice the one who had the bike was checking me out as i was leaving
Alex: *loud whisper* im gonna steal it from you!
hb7: haha

debriefing:
-after the cashier convo during the day, i just wanted to talk to more girls. There was no real motivation to take it further but to just have a fun light convo

pros:
-fun and light
-got the whole group's interest


:cheer:

 

[619joe]

Ya man for the first one you definately can come back and spark it up again for sure which is awesome I think you did fine.I mean you cant really number close or facebook close there so good effort man.I would return in like a week so it doesnt look too desperate.

2nd one I like because its just a fun random approach bud Im guessing you just didnt wanna get contact info cause she wasnt that hot?

keep em coming when you can bro Im not doin approaches lately so this is inspiring lol

 

[AlexParadox]

Yeah thanks for the reply,
the first was tough (anyone have any suggestions for the next time i bump into her)

and the second was just a in the moment kind of thing, i didnt have enough time, and she wasnt THAT good looking to stick around.

 

[AlexParadox]

because of basically, no responses to this thread.
im re posting all my material into the general discussion.