"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ah ur a virgin how can she tell

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ok was talking with the female group class member today and i was sitting next to her-i didn;t bring my textbook. she bought her ex bf about how he keeps on emailing her to do things this and that and i said why don't u just tell him to get lost and she said she can't.

then i asked her out of 10 what would u give me. well anyways she said everyones preference is differ one girl says hot and the other says not-which is true. then i said ah i go for every girl and then she says ah u desperate- and then she said ah i can tell ur a virgin. the thing is i am but i can';t tell how she figured it out just by talking to me. i asked her and she said u seem desperete and can't handle rejection-and some how that relates to being a virgin. anyways i'm 24 maybe look around 22 or so but not sure how she found out.
i mean how can a girl find out if ur a virgin or not just by talking to u-she did say she studied pschology before. any thoughts
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Maybe she just thought you had very little game based on the way you were acting and she took a guess that u were a virgin.

By her saying, i think your a virgin, even if she was wrong, she was implying that you can't get w/ very many women.
 

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After you get laid you're not that worried if you are a ten or an eight. You're not worried because you know you can get laid wheather you look good or not and you won't have to go for 'every' girl.

With what you were feeding her, she had even more than a 50/50 chance.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nothing to do with you being a virgin but i knew a girl who said she studied psychology and for some reason after that, i was quite paranoid. Just knowing that whatever move i made she knew what was behind it. Scared me.
 

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any help disguising the virgin factor please guys. what to say and not to say and actions......
ok how does desperation allow a sense that one is a virgin or not, it could be that the guy really likes the girl or is interested. i mean for heck all the guy could have lost it with a escort
its weird just talkin to her and could tell

Originally posted by Caveman
After you get laid you're not that worried if you are a ten or an eight. You're not worried because you know you can get laid wheather you look good or not and you won't have to go for 'every' girl.

With what you were feeding her, she had even more than a 50/50 chance.
 

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You were acting insecure. Asking her what she would rate you and all. Never claim to have such low self esteem that you would go home with any girl. Don't you have any pride? Would you really try and sack that fat girl with the zits, glasses and braces AND smelly feet?

The point is: Be confident and it doesn't even matter if you are a virgin.

She could have never known for sure if you were a virgin or not but I assume by the way you reacted, she knew.

Try and create a little mystery next time.. Don't be shocked if a girl thinks you're a virgin. Reply with someting like: "Interesting... why would you assume I am a virgin? Is that what they teach you in psychology? What else do you think you know about me? Let her give you a complete reading.. if anything, you'll know exactly what this girls thinks of you and why.. :)
 

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Originally posted by Caveman
You were acting insecure. Asking her what she would rate you and all. Never claim to have such low self esteem that you would go home with any girl. Don't you have any pride? Would you really try and sack that fat girl with the zits, glasses and braces AND smelly feet?

The point is: Be confident and it doesn't even matter if you are a virgin.

She could have never known for sure if you were a virgin or not but I assume by the way you reacted, she knew.

Try and create a little mystery next time.. Don't be shocked if a girl thinks you're a virgin. Reply with someting like: "Interesting... why would you assume I am a virgin? Is that what they teach you in psychology? What else do you think you know about me? Let her give you a complete reading.. if anything, you'll know exactly what this girls thinks of you and why.. :)
he nailed it. asking what a girl thinks of you is one of the fastest ways for her to find out that you are insecure about yourself
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You shouldn't really put too much thought into it. Just be like "Yeah sure... whatever you say."

I had a girl pull the virgin line just cuz i said: "Let's make out" when she was on my bed. She said: "Only a virgin would say that"

I guess she wanted me to be more open, what a wh0re. :rolleyes:
Either way i said whatever, and ended kicking her out.

Next time she comes over first thing out of her mouth: "You remeber when you said we should make out... well i think it's a good idea"

My response: Ohhh so you finally got it... little slow aren't you?

[I think you can figure out what happens later on...]

Next day, her friend asks me how many girls i've slept with. From virgin to player in 2 days. :crazy:

Funny how fast things change.

This is just a sh1t test. You gotta fake it till you make it.

Oh yeah another thing, don't ask girls what they think of you.
Especially hot girls you wanna get with. It looks very desperate and insecure. It was pretty obvious you've never gotten laid.
 

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Well, they'll certainly be able to tell the first time you nail them.............because you'll probably suck. I mean in all honesty this will probably be the case.
 
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