"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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runningonice

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I have a friend who busts my balls, and whenever I bust his, he can't take it. He's always making fun of the way I dress..said I looked like I was going to a club and was wearing Ray Charles sunglasses...yet he wears tight k mart shirts and has a beer belly.

He also makes fun of how I'm socially awkward...almost like he's doing this to feel better about himself. I am socially awkward, but he exaggerates it.

He's a member of the NRA and is one of those trigger happy people that wishes someone would break into his house so he could use his gun...a dinner-table racist. He dates UGs and fatties.

And whenever I bring any of this up in defense, he gets mad and says "f*** you."

Anyway, I deleted his number, deleted him off my facebook and everything. I'm just wondering if I should take the high road after this last ball-busting by him, or give it to him good then end it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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terran2k

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I had a friend just like that, almost exactly... I cut contact with him too.
 

Radharc

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I have a very long time friend that when I started to change and improve myself, try new stuff, do new stuff, started to behave like that, busting my balls out of nowhere, and just acting retarded in general.

I just learned to cut short that kind of stuff, but then again I dont spend as much time with him as I used to.

I think that when you start to do something worthy with your life on some level it bothers them because they are unable to do so, they just don´t have the personal fortitude, and if they are stuck on their own sucky life, they try to descredit your choices and invalidate them, so they can feel better with their own choices.

In a way when they are with you, you are all ways shoving their failure in their faces, simply because you are there, you dont have to do nothing at all.
 

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If he isn't a good friend then no need to keep him around. I'd take the high road and just cut contact. Perhaps in the future he will mature and then perhaps you can consider having him as a friend again.

No need to keep negativity in your life, nor is there any reason to reciprocate it to him by insulting him before you cut contact.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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