Advice please...

[slaog]

In all my experience, I cannot say I've done anything wrong...

You might not have done anything wrong. You don't know whats going on in her life. She might have a BF, be after a break up, be on a break from men, may just think you both live too far away etc etc etc. Who knows what the reason is. It's natural for people (especially AFC's) to blame themselves for things that was not their fault.

 

[styleman]

as sh*tty to hear as it is, the fact that she's blowing you off when you suggest coming to london is not good news. it might not be THE END OF THE WORLD, but obviously it isn't what you want to hear. prepare yourself for the worst, and when you've convinced yourself that fundamentally this is something you could get over in 2-3 days if it doesn't work out (considering you've stated you have other options), go for the phone route. like the other guy said, you can't duck that question on the phone. if she textually blows you off about the phone number like she does about the london visits, i'm sorry to say it but there's nothing you can really do except blow her off entirely. there's always a chance, however minute, that she'll get frustrated that you've dismissed her entirely and she'll change her mind, but count on the worst. that way, you'll learn to never get too disappointed and more often than not you'll be pleasantly surprised with tons of stuff. best of luck

That's how I see it too, but I want to tread very carefully, I've screwed up with enough women in my life now, and I want to only make the right moves.
I know that ignoring can work, but then again after I met her, I was traveling abroad after two days. I contacted her the next day, and she was very talkative.
The whole time I was abroad, she did not contact me at all, and the week after I initiated contact, and she spoke pretty openly, so as it stands, I think as time has gone by she has forgotten what I actually am (I think she was attracted to me in person, but through messages she's getting a different, perhaps more AFC image of me??), and just sees me as the blackberry talking to her. For her to initiate contact is very unlikely in my opinion.

 

[styleman]

You might not have done anything wrong. You don't know whats going on in her life. She might have a BF, be after a break up, be on a break from men, may just think you both live too far away etc etc etc. Who knows what the reason is. It's natural for people (especially AFC's) to blame themselves for things that was not their fault.

Thanks again for the good advise, I don't think that its my fault, but I think there may be action that I could take to make it work, rather than sit back and let her forget...

 

[styleman]

I'm not an AFC, but of late I've been finding it hard to keep girls, and progress intimately with girls, and I have no idea why that is...