Advice on this situation.

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

BigMike

Don Juan

Aug 9, 2005

Well I was talking to a close friend about this issue yesterday and he told me what happened to him:

He dropped his cellphone and the screen was shattered. He had only a few numbers memorized and was unable to charge the phone because some "gold piece" in the back was broken...He thinks maybe this is what happened and I should try again to call her a few days from now. He said that once she gets a new phone it will ring as its not dead anymore and then I should leave a voicemail with my number incase she really broke her phone.

Sound feasible? He said it happened to him with his own phone.

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.