"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Advice on married chick.

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I got canned from my job now. This girl i worked with is married. It seems like she has some interest even though. We would just chat friendly sometimes at work. She would kinda indulge in convo with me a little and ask about my weightlifting. I told her about me getting fired and she disagreed with it etc.... Shes the one initated wanting me to keep in touch with her. I did not want to exchange numbers so i had her add me on facebook. She was trying to get me to go to church with her? I thought that was weird to be honest. Today before she left she wanted to say goodbye to me. Should i just ask her out once to like a friends night out and see if shes down? Then call it quits from there if she gives excuse. Opinions appreciated. Thanks. Btw when we did practice quote to see how much my house and car was worth she was "just curious" lol.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bible_Belt

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A married woman wanting to take a guy to church on a first date has got to be an all-time first in the history of sosuave. Is it some alternative church, like Pagan or Wiccan? Ask her if she's polyamorous or in an open marriage, such arrangements are actually quite common.
 
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Are you kidding or serious? Is that something to ask a married chick i havent even hung with.
 

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Chances are she thinks you need a little Jesus juice to feel better & get your mojo back.

My guess is if you go to church it will be you, her and her hubby. They will introduce you all 'round and see about getting you SAVED. Part of some denominations is proselytizing, especially if she is evangelical of some variety.
 

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Yes, I'm very serious. The gist of the question is 'are we going to fvck, or are you wasting my time?' Any married woman who is offended at that question (the open relationship/poly question, not what I just write in italics) is not one you want to hang around. You have nothing to lose.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So let me see if I understand this. You lost your job. But that isn't the issue. Your still thinking with the wrong brain instead of figuring out the why and how can I do better on my next employment so that I don't get fired? You do know that it is YOUR fault that you got fired. If you had of been a valuable asset to the business they would not of had to even go through the process of firing and then having to train someone new which is very expensive.

Think about that from their perspective instead of just from yours.

Now some jesus freak has invited you to chuuch and you think it's about pick up?

She is married and a jesus freak.

You're thinking about punany?

Really?

Hold on while I go to the laughing barrel and laugh my guts out.

Okay I'm back.

Do you guys still use the word "NEXT" on here?

NEXT!
 
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Do you ask married chicks after weeks of talking to them or right away? Heres another thing she had pic of her and her husband i noticed on her desktop when i was with her in her office. Then i noticed a week later changed it to a pic of a pig.
 

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Dude. No matter what she is married. Why you bothering with that when there's plenty of single women out there period.
 
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