Advice on how to play this

[dustmuffin]

I am 52 years old. I sent a message to a 33 to woman on OK cupid. She looked at my profile and replied. Chatted a bit. Asked her if she was busy this week. She said no. I asked her out on Tuesday she said she would check her work schedule. I asked for her number and got it. She has only been divorced 8 months. Two kids and hell no I won't be a provider. I have two things in mind. Sex and entertainment. She has an average face and a hot body.

Thoughts?

 

[ubercat]

Hey DM
And congrats on taking up the HB challenge. Given age diff I d say she s DTF if u play it right. I.e looking for the same thing as you. So basically be interesting and sexual with just enough comfort so that she doesn't think you're weird. I'm rustier then you but how I used to play these things was alternate between a few normal comments and sexual escalation. Advantage of Solo mums is that any time they go to the effort of arranging babysitting you know you're getting some unless you screw it up. You're an experienced guy so I doubt you need too many specifics

 

[dustmuffin]

Hey DM
And congrats on taking up the HB challenge. Given age diff I d say she s DTF if u play it right. I.e looking for the same thing as you. So basically be interesting and sexual with just enough comfort so that she doesn't think you're weird. I'm rustier then you but how I used to play these things was alternate between a few normal comments and sexual escalation. Advantage of Solo mums is that any time they go to the effort of arranging babysitting you know you're getting some unless you screw it up. You're an experienced guy so I doubt you need too many specifics

I need all the help I can get. So let her rip even though you think I am experienced. What is a DTF? Should I send her a text asking what she is looking for? I really have no clue when it comes to younger women. Congrats to you for taking up the challenge.

 

[dustmuffin]

Should I be her shoulder to cry on? Ask her about her divorce?

 

[dustmuffin]

Go on the date. See if you are even INTERESTED in getting to know her more, or escalate.

Beware the provider hunter - she may not be one, odds are she IS.

Find out her occupation, see if she pays her share of the date.

Tread carefully.

I just want to **** her. I have had 33 year old ***** but it was 20 years ago. I won't spend much money. Cheap dates will be the norm. I will not get emotionally involved.

 

[ubercat]

Heheh. Well it's funny I used to play back in the day. And then the usual so suave story. 10 years of LTRs. So now it's like Past Life Regression. Generally I'm Clueless and then every so often a reflex pops and I think WTF where did that come from.

Anyway back on point. Hell no don't talk about her divorce. That is not entertaining or sexual. Mauser is right as always every solo Mum is going to try and access your resources for her kids. But that's not going to come up straight away so you guessed it your immediate job is to be entertaining and sexual.

 

[ubercat]

Forum search is your friend. Look for naughty ninja posts on how to spin your profile. Espi is a great online Hunter. There was an ex member called bukowski merit who wrote the book on teasing and sexual escalation 4 OLD.

You seem OK with specifics after all so here's some basics.

So you want to
tease
Do double entendres - that ancient show Three's Company is a good source of these.
Lookup false qualifications
Get her talking about her childhood or favourite vacation anything that's going to trigger emotions.
Do cold reads and role play
Push for the meetup but in a non threatening way. I used to tease girls about being too much time online. I did make jokes about us getting married online and having a virtual baby. Tease them about having a great second life how about getting a first life. Saying how about we bust out of the Matrix together. Etc.

And remember online dating is mainly about looks ie your photos. So keep pushing hard on your HB challenge.

Hope this helps.

 

[dustmuffin]

Forum search is your friend. Look for naughty ninja posts on how to spin your profile. Espi is a great online Hunter. There was an ex member called bukowski merit who wrote the book on teasing and sexual escalation 4 OLD.

You seem OK with specifics after all so here's some basics.

So you want to
tease
Do double entendres - that ancient show Three's Company is a good source of these.
Lookup false qualifications
Get her talking about her childhood or favourite vacation anything that's going to trigger emotions.
Do cold reads and role play
Push for the meetup but in a non threatening way. I used to tease girls about being too much time online. I did make jokes about us getting married online and having a virtual baby. Tease them about having a great second life how about getting a first life. Saying how about we bust out of the Matrix together. Etc.

And remember online dating is mainly about looks ie your photos. So keep pushing hard on your HB challenge.

Hope this helps.

Yes it did help. Thank you! Oh I'm going to press on with the challenge. I want to be able to pull the 7-9s.

 

[ubercat]

You will brother. And one last thought. You'll see a lot of post about online dating being rubbish. My last 3 live ins were solid 7s that's enough for me. They all came from online dating. Online dating will be pain but it's necessary pain. It's a great Arena because you can practice tactics and easily change your persona and it teaches you not to take women seriously and grow that titanium rejection proof skin that you will need as a DJ. Remember in the sexual market woman makes the rules and we evolve. And a lot of it is about your own style Mark Manson has a good book on called models of attraction. My style is nice guy with an edge so I do a lot of comfort and the occasional alpha comment or tease that leaves them wondering. One thing I find works really well is that you are a softy with them and you let them see that you can be a hard ass with other people. Anyway enough banging on about my style the point is that online dating is a great place for you to develop your own style and test theories. For example Harry Wilmington helps a lot of guys here and I reckon he's channeling the updated doc love mantle. But I also own a book called 59 seconds which is based on scientific studies and disagrees with some of his ideas. So enter online dating. On one site I'll take things directly from Harry's Playbook. On another site I'll play things my way. Does that mean Harry's wrong hell no there's too many variables to reduce dating to a science it's always going to be an art. What matters is finding out what approach I can make work. For example I've never been any good at ****y and funny it's lost me several hot girls. Doesn't mean ****y and funny doesn't work it means I can't make it work. So over time you work out what your strengths are and play to those.

 

[dustmuffin]

OK I sent her a text. If she dosent answer... Rejection is better than regret.

 

[ubercat]

Good man U might want to do some searching on text game here. Also post the text you sent so the guys can help. EG if it was setting up a date that's generally regarded as a weak move you're better off calling for that.

 

[dustmuffin]

Ok....I said hi Cortni, what's up? Don't say chicken butt or you will be in trouble.

 

[dustmuffin]

Should I call her even if she ignores my text? I am really out of this. I was married for 22 years....had ons and **** buddies. I had a ldr for one year that I just got out of. I will never do that again. I did learn not what to do from it. Plus it drove me here.

 

[ubercat]

So a bit of insomnia equals my biggest post ever... Thank God for speech to text.

And one really last thought. Don't get so carried away with testing tactics lets you forget to calibrate. I remember I'd been gaming this one online dating chick. It had been going well exchanging pictures got the number excetera. So I was practicing playing the questions game on the phone that leads to the question where s the wildest Place you've ever had sex. She cracked out big time and it turns out that that day she d found out her best friend has cancer. So horrible mistake I should have known from the tone of her voice that she badly needed comfort. Don't take this alpha beta stuff too seriously it's just a short hand for understanding some ideas. While your gaming a woman remember she is a human being and that's we re designed to comfort and protect her. Spread happiness and remember you're always the bigger man. Anyway too much 4 am philosophising. UC out ;-)

 

[dustmuffin]

Thanks for the help guys!