Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ok so at the gym I workout at I usually go really early in the morning and theres always this one personal trainer girl there that Im really attracted to. By trainer, shes not a musclehead. Shes kinda there to help the older folks or less experienced people know how to work the machines. Im having a hard time approaching her. Mostly because shes always around a few other girls that work there or alot of customers. But even when shes alone, i chicken out. Here are some things I was thinking of:

1. Go up to her and make a joke. Basically ask her for help on a machine when obviously I dont need it because im there everyday and in good shape. I would imagine that would get the ball rolling

2. Just go up and introduce myself and say that since we see each other everyday we might as well know each others name

Im also wondering how soon I should go for a number or ask for a date. My buddy says I should wait till after we talk a few days. He said the immediate number close, etc is only good if you might not see the person again like if it was a bar or club

what do you think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maybe you could ask for advice on some of the products at the front or ask a question about something that's related to her job. From there try to run some c+f on whatever she talks abot. Even though it's early try to work on major eye contact. I always like story telling so try to warm her up with a story about something that happened to you at the gym or an interesting observation you noticed when working out, use patience though because there is no rush. You see her all the time....

Always greet her but don't always force conversation either. Make yourself a daily regular in her life. Build comfort over time until you can finally get to the point of really high IOI where she just glazes and smiles whenever she sees you. Then casually ask her out when her interest peeks.
 
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2 seems like a great approach. It's direct, mature, natural, etc.

In any approach, just make it seem like it's not a big deal. If it becomes a big deal, then it gets awkward. Women don't have the balls to ride this out, and will eject.
 
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