Advice needed: Post K close within 30 mins

[slickaz]

Last night, went out, met an HB9 that approached on the dance floor. Danced with her, got close, kino etc. she held my hand and said lets go outside, so we did. Talked for half hour, lots of kino.
I was making her laugh uncontrollably, to the point where she holds my hand n goes "you're so funny and chocolate colored, i think we'd have beautiful and funny caramel children".....

Her cousin (hb7) walks up and says to her "i have to get you out of this situation, come with me we're leaving, i dont like the look of him"

Ps:im black. She and her cousin were white.im not sure if thats what she meant.

hB9 told her cousin she wants to stay with me, but her cousin physically tried to pull her. hB9 decides to go with her cousin but takes my number, and kisses me before she leaves.

I watch her walk across the street but there was alot of traffic so i went after her and escorted her across the street and opened the door for the cab that her cousin had hailed.

She calls me 20 mins later and says she was so hungry they stopped at Mcdonalds. I couldnt hear any further since i was in a crowded space so i said "ill text you"

Text her
Got a vague response.
"Mcdonalds sucks!"
I reply: shoulda stayed with me we couldve driven to somewhere nicer than McD's. are you headed home.
Her: Yes of course its 3AM!
Me: lets set up a time to hang again soon, ur fun to talk to.
No reply..

Should i wait to hit her up? Or just call her?

What happens when she calls you on the night of taking your number.
2 day rule apply to call her back?
What if her cousin played against me? How can i win this?

Thanks in advance

 

[plate's_empty]

Nice play being the gentleman and opening the cab door. Showed her cousin up, but after that probably should have ignored her call (I know how it is, hoping to get the booty call) but in hind sight....

Ignoring her would have got her hamster spinning (who else are you talking to now, making laugh uncontrollably) and instead of not responding to you she would be not responding to her cousin.

You had a great convo and a good connection. Unfortunately, since she's a 9, you still have to play the game.

I'd wait for a few days and if she hasn't contacted you, since she hangs out at bars/clubs, I'd text her on a Tues or Wed, say I'm getting a drink after work, you should come meet me. Go from there.

 

[Die Hard]

I'd stay silent if I were you. Basically, you already asked her out, now it's up to her to respond to that move. If she does not respond and you ask her AGAIN, you come across as weak and needy.

It is out of your hands now, you made it clear to her that you'd like to meet up sometime and now it's up to her to respond or not to respond. You MUST remain silent from here on, any additional texts that you send before she has responded, will weaken your position, no matter what the content of those texts would be.

So let it go, there is nothing you can do but wait for her response. She might respond this week, or after several weeks or even after several months.....or never. But it is out of your hands and you must leave the decision up to her. I know how frustrating this can be and how tempting it is to send her one little text after all... But any additional texts will LOWER your chances with her.

Right now, you are very eager to see her response, aren't you? It's like being in the doctor's waiting room while a loved one's life is in danger while being operated on. You are so eager for that doctor to walk out of the operating room and give you CLOSURE and tell you whether your loved one is gonna live or not... It's very hard to just sit there and wait for the outcome, without being able to influence it at all.

Waiting for her response is a similar situation. And the moment you send her another text, you reveal your state of mind to her... She will instantly know that you NEED a response from her, that you are OUTCOME DEPENDENT, that you CARE too much... And this will lower her attraction to you. A woman does not get attracted when a man chases after her like she is some special prize that he needs to win. On the contrary, a woman gets attracted when a man DISPLAYS HIGHER VALUE and shows her that he DOES NOT NEED HER, because he CONSIDERS HIMSELF THE PRIZE.

When you WITHHOLD yourself from sendng another text, you will show her that you are of higher value, that you don't need her. It will get her hamster spinning, she is not used to guys acting like that (especially since she's an HB9) and this will raise her interest in you. Do you think this is the first time some guy has sent her a text, tellng her he'd like to meet up with her? Do you think this is the first time she chose to ignore that text? Of course not, she has played this game a thousand times already... And 99 out of 100 guys will send her ANOTHER text after she ignored them, because they are all so impressed by her HB9 looks and desperate to score her because they think she is soooo special. She is bored with those chumps, they make her yawn and she keeps hoping to meet a guy who can safe her from this boredom.

But here comes that one guy (you) who shows her that he doesn't give a fvck about her good looks and kicks her off her pedestal. He shows her that he does not consider her as some rare and highly wanted princess, but just as another common peasant girl... He is a PRINCE himself and he does not care when a common peasant girl doesn't respond to his text, he is too busy chasing other princesses!
This is what you communicate to her when you stay strong and withhold yourself from sending another text. When you do send that additional text, however...you communicate to her that you're just an average frustrated chump, like those other 99 guys that came before you.

 

[Purefilth]

What he said^^

 

[slickaz]

Thanks guys
i resisted the urge to contact her well.

i woke up to a text she sent at 1AM

"Hey im off the market, life is too hectic, but if im ever find time to go dancing, i MAY have to come get you.."

(she has family members who are sick, and lives with them about 200 miles away)

I havent replied.

i want to say "Life is always hectic, and there was no talk of a market , but keep your head up, things always work out for the best. have a nice day"

any other suggestions? i feel like she is coming up with excuses not to go down the path of putting herself in any kind of rltnshp with a guy thats far away, while her family deals with multiple health issues etc..

how do i across as the guy that is fun and the one she needs right now to stay smiling through all the "hectic stuff"

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Thanks guys
i resisted the urge to contact her well.

i woke up to a text she sent at 1AM

"Hey im off the market, life is too hectic, but if im ever find time to go dancing, i MAY have to come get you.."

(she has family members who are sick, and lives with them about 200 miles away)

I havent replied.

i want to say "Life is always hectic, and there was no talk of a market , but keep your head up, things always work out for the best. have a nice day"

any other suggestions? i feel like she is coming up with excuses not to go down the path of putting herself in any kind of rltnshp with a guy thats far away, while her family deals with multiple health issues etc..

how do i across as the guy that is fun and the one she needs right now to stay smiling through all the "hectic stuff"

Your response should be some variation:

"you should" (no capitalization/punctuation)
"Cool"

And that's about it... No long statements or entreaties. But something that gets one of those two ideas across. The first is assertive and says, "yeah, sure, let's meet again" in a non-needy way, but it also just repeats what she already knows. Use at discretion..

The second says, "Sure, why not. I enjoyed myself. And I'd do that again." But this one puts no pressure on her, is succinct and gets the idea across while not repeating what she already knows. She could read it as too aloof, but she definitely won't read it as kiss-azz.

And NO DAMN SMILEY FACES!!!

 

[plate's_empty]

(she has family members who are sick, and lives with them about 200 miles away)

life is too hectic

drama already, it seems she may be trying to suck you in, to TRY and save her.

simple reply: "don't bother, I'm good."

Bam.

Then go silent with all her responses, until she says something meaningful.