BadsnakeUK
Don Juan
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I read a lot of posts on this and other forums where people describe verbatim their interactions with women and ask for analysis about where they went wrong, what they should have said, what’s a witty answer to a particular question she asked etc etc etc. Kudos to these guys for overcoming their AA and approaching, but this sort of analysis is almost always going to be academic. It’s unlikely to say the least that the girl's question will ever come up again in the same circumstances and even if it did, it’s even more unlikely that you would be able to carry off a witty answer you read on a website some time ago without it sounding like a witty answer you read off a website.
This is where Outer Game reaches its limits; where you become stuck mid-set because of lack of material, where you get blown out because you can’t carry lines off with confidence, or where you get hit with a curveball that you didn’t have a script prepared for. Or you realise that the time and effort necessary to pull this kind of thing off is going to consume your life This is usually when you realise that Inner Game is far more important than Outer Game, or give up on everything and go back to staying at home masturbating every night.
So although asking for advice on specific interactions is OK in the beginning and can even be helpful to identify patterns that might be emerging, be wary of the feeling that you are ‘building up your arsenal’ of witty responses, opening gambits etc. What you really need to be doing from the start is focusing on your life and your Inner Game, or you will waste your life sat at home on your PC trying to remember exactly what the girl on the bus in the blue dress said last Tuesday and asking guys for a witty answer that you will probably never get the chance to use again. Don’t be stuck in that rut. Be the guy answering; the guy who’s always got something witty/funny/insightful to say
So what does it mean to work on Inner Game? There’s a million and one posts on this forum alone (and this is definitely one of the forums where people seem to have their priorities right). Its all out there, you just need to make the changes rather than read about them forever. Look through these posts on improving your life and Inner Game, take them in and live by the advice as much as you can.
A note here: being a cynical Brit I’m a little cautious of the looking-in-the-mirror-saying-psychobabble-affirmations-to-big-yourself-up-before-you-leave-the-house school of thought on Inner Game. The ones really worth reading are the ones that deal with getting your life in order, and making it the sort of life that everyone, not just women, want to be a part of. When you do this you really need to ask yourself why you want a woman or, god forbid, want to be some Mack Daddy superpimp, and really question whether the satisfaction you want from life would be attained by actually living it more thoroughly? When you do this women will come anyway and you will have had more fun along the way. Again this is something covered thoroughly in the DJ Bible and a lot of posts, so look into it and review yourself in light of this regularly.
Finally, as well as sorting your life out and doing things, if you want to have something to say and be witty, you don't need to do anything more than start to look around you more. Don’t walk down the street thinking aout some sh*t that happened two weeks ago or get mesmerised by the blond ahead of you, or trudge along with your head down staring at the ground. Really begin to see the world in detail. Notice things. Notice people. Notice the strange juxtapositions and absurd little ironies that happen every day in life. You will notice there’s an awful lot in the world to observe and talk about and more importantly it will be something original and relevant, and entirely yours.
Happy hunting!
This is where Outer Game reaches its limits; where you become stuck mid-set because of lack of material, where you get blown out because you can’t carry lines off with confidence, or where you get hit with a curveball that you didn’t have a script prepared for. Or you realise that the time and effort necessary to pull this kind of thing off is going to consume your life This is usually when you realise that Inner Game is far more important than Outer Game, or give up on everything and go back to staying at home masturbating every night.
So although asking for advice on specific interactions is OK in the beginning and can even be helpful to identify patterns that might be emerging, be wary of the feeling that you are ‘building up your arsenal’ of witty responses, opening gambits etc. What you really need to be doing from the start is focusing on your life and your Inner Game, or you will waste your life sat at home on your PC trying to remember exactly what the girl on the bus in the blue dress said last Tuesday and asking guys for a witty answer that you will probably never get the chance to use again. Don’t be stuck in that rut. Be the guy answering; the guy who’s always got something witty/funny/insightful to say
So what does it mean to work on Inner Game? There’s a million and one posts on this forum alone (and this is definitely one of the forums where people seem to have their priorities right). Its all out there, you just need to make the changes rather than read about them forever. Look through these posts on improving your life and Inner Game, take them in and live by the advice as much as you can.
A note here: being a cynical Brit I’m a little cautious of the looking-in-the-mirror-saying-psychobabble-affirmations-to-big-yourself-up-before-you-leave-the-house school of thought on Inner Game. The ones really worth reading are the ones that deal with getting your life in order, and making it the sort of life that everyone, not just women, want to be a part of. When you do this you really need to ask yourself why you want a woman or, god forbid, want to be some Mack Daddy superpimp, and really question whether the satisfaction you want from life would be attained by actually living it more thoroughly? When you do this women will come anyway and you will have had more fun along the way. Again this is something covered thoroughly in the DJ Bible and a lot of posts, so look into it and review yourself in light of this regularly.
Finally, as well as sorting your life out and doing things, if you want to have something to say and be witty, you don't need to do anything more than start to look around you more. Don’t walk down the street thinking aout some sh*t that happened two weeks ago or get mesmerised by the blond ahead of you, or trudge along with your head down staring at the ground. Really begin to see the world in detail. Notice things. Notice people. Notice the strange juxtapositions and absurd little ironies that happen every day in life. You will notice there’s an awful lot in the world to observe and talk about and more importantly it will be something original and relevant, and entirely yours.
Happy hunting!