acting jelaous

[pyros]

So I know this chick HB7 who has a bf. They've been together for two years or so.

Last Summer they broke up, but got back together after a month or so.

Now, this chick is my dancing partner. She started dancing four months ago and her bf did not like the idea. She's told me a few times that her bf gets jelaous, and doesnt want anyone to touch his gf, but since I am her dancing partner he has to accept it, but they've agreed that she's not gonna dance with anyone else, lol.

Some weeks ago this guy wanted to come to see our dancing academy and to check how we danced...you know, he wanted to see what was going on lol.

It seems that in the middle of the class this guy got his gf's cellphone and started to read every text, whatsapp etc. She saw this and got angry at him.

Besides him complaining about her gf learning to dance etc, he got her a pretty expensive pair of earrings for Christmas, and she was very happy to show them to me.

Last night she, another chick, and I decided to go to a salsa club, and this guy insisted that he wanted to come as well eventhough his gf said that the plan was just the three of us, but in the end she had to let him come.
At some point some random guy asked this chick to dance, she did not know if she was 'allowed' to do it or not, but her bf said ok while looking angry.
After the dance they had a small argument.

I danced with her as well, and this guy was paying full attention to every move we made, you know, checking if we smiled a lot or not, if I touched her here or there...etc.
An hour or so later, we all left and they seemed happy.

See? if we believed everything that is said here (do not ever act jelaous, do not ever act controlling...etc) we would conclude that this chick should dump her bf, but she hasn't. Eventhough she argues with him, and complains about him being too jelaous, controlling etc...she is with him nevertheless.

I think that showing a bit of jelaousy, and telling your gf what she can or cannot do is actually better than letting her do whatever she wants without you saying a word, because if you give her unlimited freedom to show you're 'alpha' she may end up thinking that you do not care, cause if you did, you would show what annoys you, and you would show that she is YOUR girl.

This guy is too much, but caring too little cause you think it is alpha is not good either.

Here in this site we have to different type of guys: the ones that think you have to give her unlimited freedom, never act jelaous etc, and the gones that say that women have been told what they could do and what they couldn't do for thousands of years and that if you dont, they become selfish, bratty, disrespectful, sluty etc.

I guess I am more in the second group.

 

[stevo]

I do not believe I'd have to tell her what she can and cannot do, she's not my child and I don't care as much to spill all those regulations. I don't want a slave, I want a person of her own-self.

You do what you want, I do what I want, then we'll see if we are suitable for a relationship. Rather than. I tell you what to do, form you into who I want.

The problem with the latter is that, you would only love the part of them that shows you who you like in them and that's a destructive form.


Jealousy when I think back has sprung up from insecurity on my part (AFC days) now, it doesn't really matter to me.

You can dance all you want with her, guess who's taken that pussie home to beat it up?

Shoot I'd even sit back and watch you get all frustrated trying to think of a move to make on my girl and when you're done, she'll walk up to me and ask me to take her home.


So No I disagree with you.

It's not about being alpha, it's about knowing your self worth and knowing what's yours.

If I parked a Ferrari outside, why should I be worried about people looking at it when they walk pass? shoot you can touch it, take pictures with it (i'll even hold the camera) and day dream about it all you want. If you don't scratch my sheet, we don't have a problem.

 

[Fireballs]

If a girl does something that violates your standards in a committed relationship, you walk away.. No arguments, no jealousy, no controlling behaviour.. you just simply walk away.