Accepting Reality over Hope; quick question.

[sdg6656]

Long story short, there's this chick that i've known for about two months. Things were great for a while, lots of intrest, great chemistry, she did most of the calling, texting, etc. I had two or three good chances to make a move, but flopped on them on, and i take full responsibility for that (up until this girl, i've never had to make a move, all the others i've been with initiated so i was a bit shakey).

However, in spite of that, there's still some shred of interest on her part. and for the past three times we were suppose to hang out she's been too "busy," the most recent being monday morning when called an hour beforehand to cancel, and i cut her number out of my phone. She offered to move to friday, but this would be the second time that she's suggested a different day and still flaked.

i have no illusions that my chance has come and gone, and based on her actions, I know that this latest offer will no doubt result in another "reschedule" of some sort.

That being said, i wanted some input the best way to let this situtation diffuse itself. with her number gone, i can't reach her, and i figure if there's any remote intrest she'll contact me before or on the day, and if she does great, if not, i've got two dates lined up for later this week and life goes on.

Sound like the right way to handle this situation?

 

[realsmoothie]

I think you're being a little harsh. You guys are really only buddies, honestly. If you haven't shown any interest in her over TWO MONTHS, she's going to assume you only want to be friends and will treat you as such.

So she's not going to prioritize you in her life. You can't fault her for that, you'd do the same thing.

I'm not saying you have to still hang out with her... but cutting her off your phone is a little much, and smacks of sour grapes.

 

[logicallefty]

That being said, i wanted some input the best way to let this situtation diffuse itself. with her number gone, i can't reach her, and i figure if there's any remote intrest she'll contact me before or on the day, and if she does great, if not, i've got two dates lined up for later this week and life goes on.

Sound like the right way to handle this situation?

That's exactly how I'd a' handled it.. I do that all the time. Delete the # and move on. Deleting the # brings closure for me.. That's just me...

 

[PrinceBeavis]

I'm pretty much in the same boat. On top of that, I've got a bad case of oneitis. It's really not much fun. This one just got over a bad breakup. It was me who asked if she wanted space. Now, I'm practically sitting here, looking at my watch...all afc-like.

 

[sdg6656]

last straw

Well, come this morning when she was suppose to hang out, she cancels on me an hour before hand. I hadn't spoken to her since the last message i got a few days ago when i posted, and frankly, this cancel came as no suprise. Some part of me wants to call her out on her bs because a week ago she was adament on hanging out, and promised that should we fit me into her schedule. However, i figure its best to just walk away and not turn this into some "thanks for nothing, have a good life" mess. I have another girl i know is interested coming over next wednesday, but no matter my progress with women, im still amazed at how fast interest can plummet.



I know this is the only proper course of action to take, anyone else feel I should do different?