"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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About the Master DJ title...

NeXuS

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This might not be the most important suggestion in the world, but I'm wondering if the "Master Don Juan" title can be rewarded to people who have been here for a set amount of time (6 months or a year?) instead of the post count thing we have going on now.

It would be a lot more accurate and make sure that the people who post about 10 times a day don't get that title and end up having their bad advice listened too.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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De La Soul

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I brought this up once but got torn apart by people telling me that nobody takes any notice of the Master Don Juan title. In my opinion they do. But........

My take on this is that it still doesn't give an accurate representation of who is a "Master". For example, you could sign up a year ago and forget about the site and then come back *pow* you're a master.

The only true way to judge who are the masters is to read the QUALITY of posts. Not how many you have made, not how long you have been registered for.

Just like a ball player isn't inducted into the Hall of Fame if they've been playing for a long time, or have played a lot of games (they will get recognition but not Hall of Fame recognition).

Also, a lot of people think before they tell others HOW TO think. i.e. A lot of people (LIKE ME) have studied the boards and the bible for a long time (over a year) before they came onto the message boards and started posting away on how others should DJ.

Basically, both methods are unfair, but there is no point in changing from one inaccurate way, to another inaccurate way.
 

NeXuS

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Originally posted by De La Soul:
A bunch of stuff
I totally agree with you. I mean, I rarely give advice although I've been here for at least 2 years simply because I think there are people much more qualified to do so.

However, I'm really beginning to get pissed at people who give insanely bad advice, yet get listened to because of the idiotic title.

In any case, it doesn't matter to me much since I've learned my stuff and that's essentially all I care about. I would like to see newbies who come here be able to distinguish garbage from gold more easily though.
 

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MAn, you took the time to read, and learn.

That is the way it SHOULD be....

why should it be made easier for the newbies?

They have to dive in, see what is good and bad, and make their own decisions for themselves what is good and what is bad, and what applies to their own situations.

Alan, get rid of the damn names, everyone should be equal here, unless they prove themselves. They would be found out in time.

Maybe the initial idea was good, to make it simpler to find good stuff.

But you can write a damn good informative post, maybe even just 10, you will then be known as good, even though the Master title wasnt given.

we are all equal here, but there are some people here who have more experience and have similar circumstances. yet there are some people who have alot of experience who contribute stuff that not worth anything.

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If you do not control the way how you think, someone else will!
(my view on life, and finally found it in words in one of Pooks posts)

Ich bin vielleicht nicht der Beste, aber ich bin doch besser als die Reste
I am maybe not the best, but I am better than the rest!

If you cant think for yourself, and let others think for you, you deserve what happens to you.
 

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we had a thread about this not too long ago.

I got the impression that the current software doesn't really support a "better" way to give out the title. the best solution was to up the number of posts that are required.

Obviously we can't expect new software anytime soon. Not sure why the number of posts was never "upped". Anyone?

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"There are no such things as mixed signals when it comes to women, there is reality and what the guy wants to be reality." - Don Phenom
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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