"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A word on overthinking.

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Before i post this i realize many are going to say "easier said than done", and i agree, it IS easier said than done, but if you want to improve your life with women and in general, you have to strive towards putting good advice into action.


Overthinking things might be one of the most self-destructive things you can do to yourself when it comes to women. We all do it. We overthink things sometimes such as:

She never called back, does that mean she doesnt like me?

She didnt smile at me when i smiled at her, does it mean im ugly?


You have to program your mind to stop thinking about useless information. If a woman does not call back, then she does not call back. It should not effect your self esteem or anything in your life whatsoever.

The biggest thing i believe most guys overthink is rejections. They will get rejected and think of a myriad of reasons of why it might have been.

Listen to what i am about to say, because it might completly change your attitude towards approaches.

There are SO many reasons you might get turned down it is virtually impossible to list them all. Maybe she is taken, and in that case, who cares? waste of time.

Maybe shes having a bad day. Not your fault. Move on.

Maybe she isnt interested. Who cares? even if she has a negative opinion of your looks or approach does that mean everyone else feels that way? Putting a lot of stock into what one person thinks of you is a surefire way to end up miserable.

In other words, if what you are thinking about is not furthering your success, then STOP IT. It is a waste of time and energy and its destroying you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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That's a very important point you have shared with us Febreze.

There are people who think and people who do...
Nothing wrong with thinking about what you can do, but it's important to then follow it up by doing it!
 
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I like the part where you talk of not caring SO much of what people think of you.
Who cares? even if she has a negative opinion of your looks or approach does that mean everyone else feels that way? Putting a lot of stock into what one person thinks of you is a surefire way to end up miserable
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The type of people who do care a lot of what people think of them are too conservative and have no identity because they are chamelleons to what others like.

Do not be a chamelleon. Be yourself even it means going against people you just met. Being honest may save you from a HUGE waste of time and devotion to a girl NOT even compatible to you.

The risk involved with being yourself is that people may not like you, so be prepared to be unpopular. Thinking back to jesus, he was VERY unpopular with any of the high snobby people, and explosively popular amongst those who needed help mostly those with little power.

Do not risk anything= masturbation
 
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Alle_Gory said:
You're over-thinking this over-thinking business.
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very constructive post. i appreciate trying to help and being talked down too.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Some girls will think that you're cool some not..... Where is the difference in you? :D It's wiser to focus on what every girl likes! Oh and if you approach one chick one day you may get her, other day you may not.... So the problem isn't always the looks. Maybe she isn't feeling well? MAKE her feel well, if your energy is contagious, that affects the interaction a lot. This may seem out of the context a bit, but it's worth mentioning anyway!
 
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