"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A straight forward, non-gimicky opener that works well

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This is a play on the typical pick-up line, "dont I know you from somewhere?" or "Havent we met before."

So after you open her with this generally lame pick-up line, and she says "no" You extend out your hand and say, "well nice to finally meet you, I'm _____"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I was actually thinking really hard of a good opener that suits me and isn't considered to much of a pick up and this came to mind. I think this can work really well. Its so easy and breaks the ice. Good job pointing it out
 

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> How do I do it?
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> Five little words.
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> 'Nice to see you again'
Brilliant opener, I'll make a mental note of this to try out in the field.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It could start a conversation well enough, but I don't really like it. Starts things off immediately with a lie, which you then have to then tunnel out of sooner or later.

Give it a try and let us know how it goes. I'll test it too.
 

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War Against Betaism said:
Brilliant opener, I'll make a mental note of this to try out in the field.
Are you talking about Zero2's or the one I posted. I'm sure they have both been used before, but that doesn't necesarily mean that they're common knowlege. They're both worth a try.

BTW Zero, that's alot of adds in you post :crazy: I got shyt for having 1.
 

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Boschy said:
It could start a conversation well enough, but I don't really like it. Starts things off immediately with a lie, which you then have to then tunnel out of sooner or later.

Give it a try and let us know how it goes. I'll test it too.
You guys need to specify which opener you are talking about. The one I posted does not start with a lie. It's a question. Zero's open's with a lie, which I also felt isn't quite my style. But I think it would work none the less.
 

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Dongfu!
Clear your PM please!

PM me for a free copy of Supersize Your Sex Life

One please! :woo:

Thanks!

Add? That isnt from me man, I just copied and pasted from the email brent sends us, cos I thought that might be similar with your style bro, and I thought it might actually strengthen and help to increase the effectiveness of your post.

Props to you and brent, not me bro. ;)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dongfu said:
Are you talking about Zero2's or the one I posted. I'm sure they have both been used before, but that doesn't necesarily mean that they're common knowlege. They're both worth a try.

BTW Zero, that's alot of adds in you post :crazy: I got shyt for having 1.
Honestly I haven't heard Zero's opener before, I was referring to that.

[edit] Actually, on second thought, I've heard it about a billion times in comedy movies with corny love relationships in different variations.
 

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It works okay but it's so well worn/well known that the girl will just roll her eyes.
 

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Zero2 said:
Dongfu!
Clear your PM please!

PM me for a free copy of Supersize Your Sex Life

One please! :woo:

Thanks!

Add? That isnt from me man, I just copied and pasted from the email brent sends us, cos I thought that might be similar with your style bro, and I thought it might actually strengthen and help to increase the effectiveness of your post.

Props to you and brent, not me bro. ;)
Thanks. Just pm me your email and i'll send the book. PS I'm not david d, i wont send you 50 million emails afterward. Just the book with no hidden fee's. :D
 

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Update

I used a spontaneous opener yesterday that worked well. But I'm sure this one's been around since 500 BC. :rolleyes:

Anyway, here it is.

As I was walking into a restarant I passed through the outdoor seating section. As I walked by a girl, who was sitting with another girl smiled at me. I smiled back and said, "hold that smile." This created immediate suspense for her. Now she is waiting for me to return.

When I got my food I went outside and noticed that she had a condiment on the table that she brought from inside. I sat down at the table next to hers and said, "I'm gonna have to steal that from you."

Initiated convo, set up plans to hang and exhanged #'s. Going to a dance party tonight where these girls will be there, as well as a few others I've met in the last few days. I'll have to arrive at a descision at some point tonight.
 

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This opener in the original post works. I have used a variation of it many times in the past. It's simple and not too intrusive.

Dongfu said:
As I walked by a girl, who was sitting with another girl smiled at me. I smiled back and said, "hold that smile." This created immediate suspense for her. Now she is waiting for me to return.
This one is also a good idea, and although I haven't tried it, it seems like it would fly.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

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