"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A situation regarding two girls who are roommates...

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Hey hey hey, my fellow DJ's!

I'm in something close to a dilemma, although I don't think it's quite an "according-to-Hoyle" dilemma, per se.

There's a couple freshmen girls who live as roommates on my floor of my dorm. They're both attractive, but I'm more interested in one than the other, this really cute Japanese-American girl from Hawaii. The other is also a really sweet girl who's pretty cute and laid-back, but I'm not quite as attracted to her physically. Still, she definitely has a thing for me.

I was gonna ask the first girl out to a movie tonight or this weekend, since she mentioned to me earlier in passing, while I was rushing off to class, that she's just working on essays this weekend. But I'm a little nervous that, if I go to her room and knock on her door, her roommate will be there, and then if I ask her out, her roomie will get hurt or disappointed. Which, of course, would ruin my chances with her, along with it simply being not a nice thing to do to her.

So what would you do, fellow DJ-ers? Chance it? Try to catch the first girl when her roomie's not around? Or try to catch the first girl when she's not in her room?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Antedeus said:
Hey hey hey, my fellow DJ's!

I'm in something close to a dilemma, although I don't think it's quite an "according-to-Hoyle" dilemma, per se.

There's a couple freshmen girls who live as roommates on my floor of my dorm. They're both attractive, but I'm more interested in one than the other, this really cute Japanese-American girl from Hawaii. The other is also a really sweet girl who's pretty cute and laid-back, but I'm not quite as attracted to her physically. Still, she definitely has a thing for me.

I was gonna ask the first girl out to a movie tonight or this weekend, since she mentioned to me earlier in passing, while I was rushing off to class, that she's just working on essays this weekend. But I'm a little nervous that, if I go to her room and knock on her door, her roommate will be there, and then if I ask her out, her roomie will get hurt or disappointed. Which, of course, would ruin my chances with her, along with it simply being not a nice thing to do to her.

So what would you do, fellow DJ-ers? Chance it? Try to catch the first girl when her roomie's not around? Or try to catch the first girl when she's not in her room?

Did you see the Seinfeld episode?

If not, the answer is: threesome.:yes:
 

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brucevangeorge said:
Did you see the Seinfeld episode?
Oh dear...I DID think it sounded rather sitcommish.:p

If not, the answer is: threesome.:yes:
I'll see what I can do. Any advice on how to go about engineering this without getting expelled for sexual harrassment? ~_^
 
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