The biggest mistake I see guys here making is anaysing ****.
Cut that out please!
I know how easy it is to convince yourself that "thinking" about what she said or did will give you a clue to how she feels about you and only by knowing how she feels about you will you be able to figure out the best course of action is...
Thats bull****.
I know coz I did that **** for years.
Don't worry, this isnt a "be a man! do what you want!" thread.
This is have a positive mindset thread.
Here is the right way to think.
Girls hide their feelings.
When they like a guy they will try to hide it til they know you like them and even then they'll still hide it.
If she doesn't like you but you like her she will know so she will throw roadblocks at you.
Nothing makes a girl like a guy more than confidence.
The way to be confident is to have a positive mindset.
Here's an example of a positive mindset in action. (This is a ****ing true story every bit of it!)
On Friday night, I met a sweet girl. I'd met her breifly twice before, spoken to her ten minutes in total max before Friday.
I knew she was sticking at the bar for a few hours (coz I asked) so I didn't push it. I just stopped for a flirt everytime I passed her.
Towards the end of the night I was talking to the DJs (as in disc jockeys) coz they were playing great music.
She came up and started chatting to the DJs in front of me. The girl then invites them to a party and gives them both her phone number.
Now most of you analysers would go, "the hor was after touring DJ ****, she's not after me at all!"
But I got a positive mindset. In my head I was like,
"She's just doing this to get to me, she's seen me talking to lots of girls, I've flirted with her but I keep leaving at the high point, she's never met these djs before, I have made her laugh, their conversation has been dull, she could have come over at any time yet she chose to come here when I am here, I **** on these guys, she knows she's a babe. She's upped the ante, this is a big fat sh*t test, this is designed to get to ME."
My analysation of the situation was to look at the evidence which would give me confidence to do what I wanted to do.
So instead of slinking away, once she had given the DJs the number I crooked a finger. Thats it. No words, just a beckoning gesture with total confidence. She wrote down her number and handed it over with a little smile.
I turned and walked away without a word. She came and found me before she was leaving to give me a hug. I didn't say anything about calling her and she stood there for a second after the hug waiting (can't let her get away with that little power game with DJs now can I). Better to leave her hanging for a bit.
I'll call her next week (ah la Anti Dump Advice). Anyway I got things to do this week. She'll keep.
If she doesn't wanna come out with me then she misses out.
Thats positive thinking. Give it a go.
JJ
Cut that out please!
I know how easy it is to convince yourself that "thinking" about what she said or did will give you a clue to how she feels about you and only by knowing how she feels about you will you be able to figure out the best course of action is...
Thats bull****.
I know coz I did that **** for years.
Don't worry, this isnt a "be a man! do what you want!" thread.
This is have a positive mindset thread.
Here is the right way to think.
Girls hide their feelings.
When they like a guy they will try to hide it til they know you like them and even then they'll still hide it.
If she doesn't like you but you like her she will know so she will throw roadblocks at you.
Nothing makes a girl like a guy more than confidence.
The way to be confident is to have a positive mindset.
Here's an example of a positive mindset in action. (This is a ****ing true story every bit of it!)
On Friday night, I met a sweet girl. I'd met her breifly twice before, spoken to her ten minutes in total max before Friday.
I knew she was sticking at the bar for a few hours (coz I asked) so I didn't push it. I just stopped for a flirt everytime I passed her.
Towards the end of the night I was talking to the DJs (as in disc jockeys) coz they were playing great music.
She came up and started chatting to the DJs in front of me. The girl then invites them to a party and gives them both her phone number.
Now most of you analysers would go, "the hor was after touring DJ ****, she's not after me at all!"
But I got a positive mindset. In my head I was like,
"She's just doing this to get to me, she's seen me talking to lots of girls, I've flirted with her but I keep leaving at the high point, she's never met these djs before, I have made her laugh, their conversation has been dull, she could have come over at any time yet she chose to come here when I am here, I **** on these guys, she knows she's a babe. She's upped the ante, this is a big fat sh*t test, this is designed to get to ME."
My analysation of the situation was to look at the evidence which would give me confidence to do what I wanted to do.
So instead of slinking away, once she had given the DJs the number I crooked a finger. Thats it. No words, just a beckoning gesture with total confidence. She wrote down her number and handed it over with a little smile.
I turned and walked away without a word. She came and found me before she was leaving to give me a hug. I didn't say anything about calling her and she stood there for a second after the hug waiting (can't let her get away with that little power game with DJs now can I). Better to leave her hanging for a bit.
I'll call her next week (ah la Anti Dump Advice). Anyway I got things to do this week. She'll keep.
If she doesn't wanna come out with me then she misses out.
Thats positive thinking. Give it a go.
JJ