A NOT so shocking trend

[Epicurus]

EVERY guy comes into this forum, new or not so new and something about them never fails. The reason they're struggling with women and overall in life is always something else. It's how they were raised. How ****ty society is, how slutty modern day women are. How bad OLD is, how you need money; how if you have money you need status but what is status I already have a good job and I'm funny. How much EVERYONE ELSE AND EVERYTHING ELSE SUCKS. But I've yet to see in my short time here a single guy come in and say. Maybe I'm the problem, maybe instead of blaming someone else I should analyze myself and what I'm missing; what am I doing wrong. How can I be helped. But that would imply holding oneself accountable for our actions and shortcomings. But anyone who is even in any way educated in the psychology of humans as a species knows how hard it is for an individual to hold themselves accountable. Because it's much easier to put the blame on everyone but yourself

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

But I didn't come here because I wanted to get better with women, I wanted to get better social skills. That's how I found this place.

But fine, to make you happy I'll say it again like I've said it a million times before: I sucked. Just at life. Biggest embarrassment you could have been as a child. Luckily I'm a lot better now. There's a lot of factors that explains why I was ****ty, but mostly it was because I was weak enough to let those factors affect me. Now I'm finally strong enough to admit wrong.

Admitting wrong with oneself can at first be very painful. Ego destruction is never pleasant and that's why most people blame something else. They don't have any self esteem to fall back on after they've gotten rid of their false pride.

 

[Urbanyst]

Horse sh*t.

A lot of guys here regularly discuss their flaws and insecurities.

And why does it have to be one or the other? You can have flaws (as we all do) AND the market can suck (which it does).

 

[Von]

EVERY guy comes into this forum, new or not so new and something about them never fails. The reason they're struggling with women and overall in life is always something else. It's how they were raised. How ****ty society is, how slutty modern day women are. How bad OLD is, how you need money; how if you have money you need status but what is status I already have a good job and I'm funny. How much EVERYONE ELSE AND EVERYTHING ELSE SUCKS. But I've yet to see in my short time here a single guy come in and say. Maybe I'm the problem, maybe instead of blaming someone else I should analyze myself and what I'm missing; what am I doing wrong. How can I be helped. But that would imply holding oneself accountable for our actions and shortcomings. But anyone who is even in any way educated in the psychology of humans as a species knows how hard it is for an individual to hold themselves accountable. Because it's much easier to put the blame on everyone but yourself

The weak put blâme upon others
The weak find excuses

The strong ask for help, diagnose, rebuilt

Its important to work on your weakness

I came here to improve my life: dating,business, make à focus

From day 1: i knew it was me to béat the market.. no point in talking about something you cant control. You can control you

While people theorize and talk about others. I move, I improve

So far, focusing on yourself has been the most productive idea

 

[Serenity]

I blamed myself before I found this place, I am the only person I can truly control. The world doesn't bend to my will, but I can get my will by adapting to the world.

I do agree that it is depressing to come here and see so many guys being so lost, but we can't really control that. We can only make sure we don't become one of them.

 

[resilient]

I originally came here in 2005 to learn everything under the sun in the DJ bible after my first major oneitis.

I've taken breaks from the forum over the years. My longest break lasted nine years due to my marriage that crashed and burned. Funny, how many lessons I thought I had corrected going into the marriage resurfaced old childhood wounds in the demise of that LTR.

Coming back here has been helpful in understanding the current SMV, yet more so on how I need (and plan) to fix and improve my inner game issues. It took me a year during my separation to get out of the fog, PM a few divorced guys to understand how I got to where I am and more importantly where I need to go.

Although @Poon King was a controversial figure on this forum, I learned a hell of a lot of inner game focus from him than I had from anyone else on here in years in 2016.

It's good to touch base with some of the guys here that have helped me along my DJ journey. I think the good ones here generally wish each other well in life beyond just game.

I pitch back and help where I can from experience and what I'm still learning. Some guys have such bruised egos that are closed-minded and don't want objectively look at what can be changed on their part to change their fate.

It's sad too because they limit their potential to further success in all endeavors when they're gut instinct is to react and protect the ego.