"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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wd40

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Ok I think I have a fun little situation you guys might not have heard before. So I play high school football and we go 10 months without drinking or smoking pot during training and the season. Our season ended a few weeks ago so naturally the first thing i did was go out that friday night and get ****-faced with some teammates. So I ran into this girl when I was like a 5th deep ( Im 6'3'', 255 lbs so I was still at least a little functional) and she was wearing a sweatshirt of our rival team. I don't remember much but according to my friends I just went off on the chick, got in her face and started yelling at her for wearing the other teams shirt or whatever. Long story short she actually got uncomfortable and had to leave the party even tho my friends got me relatively under control. All i remember is yelling "**** you *****" while my friend tried to sit me down in a chair and get me to shut up.

So Im actually a pretty nice guy and i felt terrible when my friends told me about it the next day so i asked a buddy who knew her what her name was and i looked her up on facebook. Turns out this chick is gorgeous. So i sent her a message apologizing for being such a douchebag and all that jazz. well she sends me back this message that is totally accepting of the apology and actually sorta flirty. Its hard to tell from the message exactly but it seemed like she might have been into me. Then a friend of hers that goes to my school comes up to me the next monday and says "hey I here you met my friend (insert chicks name here) friday night" and we talked about it for a while.

My point is that this girl is available and good looking and i think might be into me but i have no idea how to approach her. I could ask the girl at my school that I know for her number but that seems sorta creepy to ask for someone elses number. I could message her on facebook again but since i already apologized i dont really have an excuse to do that. i dont really wanna wait like 3 months to see her at another random party. any ideas on how to get in touch with her or meet up with her?
 

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jeffthechef

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ask to hang with her friend and her sometime.

ask her friend for the number

simply message again on facebook....if she's interested she wouldn't mind at all...she'll be too surprised to hear you wanted to hang

either way...you get her number or don't...but it doesn't matter if you don't, cause that's what being a dj is all about right?
 

eaglez1177

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I would go to her friend, and tell her friend that you want to meet this girl and get to know her better. Using a girl's friend is one of the easiest ways to get through to another girl. If the girl you think likes you really does want to get to know you better, then im sure her friend would give you her number or be able to help set something up.
 

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thanks

wow im surprised how easy that was. Just called up the other girl said i wanted to hang out with her and her friend that i met the other night, that i owed her one for getting in her face at the party. the three of us are going for ice cream later today. only problem... the three of us lol. but whatev it worked out way easier than i expected
 

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wd40 said:
wow im surprised how easy that was. Just called up the other girl said i wanted to hang out with her and her friend that i met the other night, that i owed her one for getting in her face at the party. the three of us are going for ice cream later today. only problem... the three of us lol. but whatev it worked out way easier than i expected
Yeah. Looks like a lot of this stuff is easier than we expect. If only we'd realize it once we're out there, get that nervousness out.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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eaglez1177

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wd40 said:
wow im surprised how easy that was. Just called up the other girl said i wanted to hang out with her and her friend that i met the other night, that i owed her one for getting in her face at the party. the three of us are going for ice cream later today. only problem... the three of us lol. but whatev it worked out way easier than i expected
Nice job...good luck on the date, it may be the three of you, but hey, its better than nothing. Hopefully next time it'll just be you and her.
 

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I wouldn't be complaining about a date with 2 girls
 
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