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Don Juan
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I just got back home from a brisk morning run after spending the night out with a buddy of mine and I’m feeling pretty damn good. Last week, my girlfriend that I really loved broke up with me, so naturally I was down in the dumps. Even though I knew I wouldn’t have done a single thing differently, I had been hanging my head in defeat since then (you can read about it here if you’d like). Last night, something in me changed. Or rather, I remembered something that had become obscured to me over the course of my recent relationship.
Through everything you may go through with women, through all the aggravation and heartbreak, always remember two things: Peace and Love.
They’re easy things to take for granted, but when embraced, they’re also what can keep you having a level head and a true DJ mindset. You have to be at peace with yourself, as well as love who you are and not be afraid to share that love with others.
Now I’m not saying not to get angry. Anger has its place, but it’s a dangerous thing and should only be used constructively; too many guys get consumed by it, especially on these forums. I spent years living with it long ago, even after I had lost weight and turned my life around, and guess what came of it? More anger. I wanted revenge, to make women and others pay for how they treated me. I had become so enveloped by it, and it did absolutely nothing to help my situation. An eye for an eye does truly leave the whole world blind.
You have to be at peace with yourself, to throw away the baggage that’s holding you down. I learned two very important things from my parents: “Treat others as you want to be treated,” my mom would tell me, and my dad would follow up with, “But don’t take no sh!t from nobody.”
This isn’t to say get back at those who’ve wronged you; stand up for yourself, but know when to stop. There’s a reason why no contact works with women and smothering them doesn’t. Think of it like reading a book. Some of the best authors give you just enough information to set up a scenario, but leave enough information out so as to let your mind connect the dots on its own.
Women are NOT monsters; they’re human beings just like us, albeit wayyyyy more emotional and often irrational. Yes, what they do will anger you, and yes it may not make a lick of sense, but you know what? Have the peace of mind knowing that you did what you could, learn from it, and move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea. Okay, so your line broke when you thought you had finally reeled in that big prize and it swam away. Maybe one day in the future it’ll come around again, but if not, oh well. I guarantee there are bigger and better fish out there and if you keep trying, you find one. Never go chasing. Captain Ahab did with Moby-D!ck, and that didn’t end up too well for him, did it? :nono:
This leads to the “love” part. For me, I freely admit I loved my ex, and I have no regrets looking back at it. When I signed up for these forums years ago, it was after a previous break-up, and I had thought I would never love again, but then here came along my most recent girlfriend a year and a half later, and I knew I loved her within a month of meeting being with her. We have the ability to love many different people in our lives. It’s painful when we lose someone, but we can’t let that fear hold us back. We’re here for a short time, so enjoy it.
Think of it this way…nismo said it best with the Super Mario Bros. quote “Your princess is in another castle.” But think about the experience that comes from finding that out. In the game, you as Mario (or Luigi, if you’re into that sort of thing
) traverse the lands of the Mushroom Kingdom. Chances are, the very first time you played the game, you died many times, whether it was from pitfalls, turtles, or other enemies, but eventually you learned what to expect and how to play the game. The more you learned, the faster you could get back to where you were when you died and go even farther. Eventually you made it to the castle, and after finally overcoming its perils, you find that your princess wasn’t there. So you head out to conquer other worlds and castles, suffering the same thing, but learning each and every time. Eventually, you make it to that last castle, and all of your training has led you up to this very point. You make it all the way to the end, beat the boss, and there, finally, is your princess.
The person you were when you first played that beginning stage would not have been prepared to beat the final one, but what you learned there laid the groundwork for you to do so.
If you find that you love a woman, love her. It might not work out, but don’t let that deter you from putting yourself out there and enjoying one of life’s greatest pleasures. Remember, Mario went through many castles before he found what he was looking for.
Well gentlemen, I haven’t slept in nearly 24 hours so I think it’s finally time for me to get at least a few winks of sleep before I gotta head out later, but I just wanted to give a little something back to a community that’s helped me so much. I hope you all have a kick-@$$ day.
Peace and love :rockon:
Through everything you may go through with women, through all the aggravation and heartbreak, always remember two things: Peace and Love.
They’re easy things to take for granted, but when embraced, they’re also what can keep you having a level head and a true DJ mindset. You have to be at peace with yourself, as well as love who you are and not be afraid to share that love with others.
Now I’m not saying not to get angry. Anger has its place, but it’s a dangerous thing and should only be used constructively; too many guys get consumed by it, especially on these forums. I spent years living with it long ago, even after I had lost weight and turned my life around, and guess what came of it? More anger. I wanted revenge, to make women and others pay for how they treated me. I had become so enveloped by it, and it did absolutely nothing to help my situation. An eye for an eye does truly leave the whole world blind.
You have to be at peace with yourself, to throw away the baggage that’s holding you down. I learned two very important things from my parents: “Treat others as you want to be treated,” my mom would tell me, and my dad would follow up with, “But don’t take no sh!t from nobody.”
This isn’t to say get back at those who’ve wronged you; stand up for yourself, but know when to stop. There’s a reason why no contact works with women and smothering them doesn’t. Think of it like reading a book. Some of the best authors give you just enough information to set up a scenario, but leave enough information out so as to let your mind connect the dots on its own.
Women are NOT monsters; they’re human beings just like us, albeit wayyyyy more emotional and often irrational. Yes, what they do will anger you, and yes it may not make a lick of sense, but you know what? Have the peace of mind knowing that you did what you could, learn from it, and move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea. Okay, so your line broke when you thought you had finally reeled in that big prize and it swam away. Maybe one day in the future it’ll come around again, but if not, oh well. I guarantee there are bigger and better fish out there and if you keep trying, you find one. Never go chasing. Captain Ahab did with Moby-D!ck, and that didn’t end up too well for him, did it? :nono:
This leads to the “love” part. For me, I freely admit I loved my ex, and I have no regrets looking back at it. When I signed up for these forums years ago, it was after a previous break-up, and I had thought I would never love again, but then here came along my most recent girlfriend a year and a half later, and I knew I loved her within a month of meeting being with her. We have the ability to love many different people in our lives. It’s painful when we lose someone, but we can’t let that fear hold us back. We’re here for a short time, so enjoy it.
Think of it this way…nismo said it best with the Super Mario Bros. quote “Your princess is in another castle.” But think about the experience that comes from finding that out. In the game, you as Mario (or Luigi, if you’re into that sort of thing
) traverse the lands of the Mushroom Kingdom. Chances are, the very first time you played the game, you died many times, whether it was from pitfalls, turtles, or other enemies, but eventually you learned what to expect and how to play the game. The more you learned, the faster you could get back to where you were when you died and go even farther. Eventually you made it to the castle, and after finally overcoming its perils, you find that your princess wasn’t there. So you head out to conquer other worlds and castles, suffering the same thing, but learning each and every time. Eventually, you make it to that last castle, and all of your training has led you up to this very point. You make it all the way to the end, beat the boss, and there, finally, is your princess.The person you were when you first played that beginning stage would not have been prepared to beat the final one, but what you learned there laid the groundwork for you to do so.
If you find that you love a woman, love her. It might not work out, but don’t let that deter you from putting yourself out there and enjoying one of life’s greatest pleasures. Remember, Mario went through many castles before he found what he was looking for.
Well gentlemen, I haven’t slept in nearly 24 hours so I think it’s finally time for me to get at least a few winks of sleep before I gotta head out later, but I just wanted to give a little something back to a community that’s helped me so much. I hope you all have a kick-@$$ day.
Peace and love :rockon: