A Con of Texting

[SmooveMooves]

Yooo,

Had this HB8(.5 on a sunny day) chick I dated a few months back.

Dated her for a month anna half and I laid the pipe to her 5 days a week

Sex was fabulous (had to use this word LOL) she was a freak like she only came out at night

FastFoward- I backslide like a iceskater, and lose said chick.

FastFowardFoward- She contacts me on FB claiming " She was thinking of me, and thinks we should start over" I get her number we chat, I game her.

Now I'm not stupid, she probably only hit me up cause' she was
A) Lonely
B)Low on options
C) A&B

But I haven't the slightest fvck in my possession to donate, I just wanted more crazy unprotected sex (She's on BC and I know for a fact she's clean)

But the problem is, midway through texting, she doesn't reply
then a week later she texts me and when I reply, she doesn't again.
This has been happening for like 3 months

I keep giving her chances thinking hey "Maybe she's driving around my house BUTT NAKED and wants to stop by for the D"

Only to have her NOT reply and me, contemplate why.

Anyway, the moral of the story and the error of my ways is, if I had called her to set up the date, I would've of been gravy. But instead I tried to build attraction,(which was lost and had to be regained) through screen pixels. (which is not Impossible, but shouldn't have been course of action when previous interest was already lost)

I'm still a strong advocate and supporter of text game, as I receive successful results, lays, and nudes.

But what I have learned is text game is not always king.

Feel me?

-Smoove

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Here's my synopsis:

Originally she started seeing someone else. That's why you lost your FB/dating status, it was cool while it lasted.

She hit you up because of A and/or B like you had mentioned. Possibly for some validation if current dude is giving her the slip.

You may be banging your head up against the wall here.

That's my take, but who knows. You might just want to ask her what her status is, ask about the other guy. Get some info out of her.

Side note: Maybe your text game isn't at the level you think it is. 3 months?? That's a long time. Has she been stringing you along the whole time?

 

[SmooveMooves]

Here's my synopsis:

Originally she started seeing someone else. That's why you lost your FB/dating status, it was cool while it lasted.

She hit you up because of A and/or B like you had mentioned. Possibly for some validation if current dude is giving her the slip.

You may be banging your head up against the wall here.

That's my take, but who knows. You might just want to ask her what her status is, ask about the other guy. Get some info out of her.

Side note: Maybe your text game isn't at the level you think it is. 3 months?? That's a long time. Has she been stringing you along the whole time?

She hasn't replied for her to string me along. Haha, she just occasionally sends messages like "Hey what's up" In which i give her the benefit of the doubt and reply, but no reply after that. lol I think its attention/Validation.

Maybe her "Hey what's up" really translates to "Hey, you still there? If you reply, I know that I can still fvck with you if the idea should happen to tickle my belly"

In which the idea must not tickle,

But as a man of logic I don't see why one would text and then NOT respond

All in All, she blew it, I lost all interest, I was just stating that if I had called her I could've avoided this, which I had formerly believed against

 

[narcissist]

I'm really starting to realize how fvcked women are.

 

[narcissist]

Maybe her "Hey what's up" really translates to "Hey, you still there? If you reply, I know that I can still fvck with you if the idea should happen to tickle my belly"

This is most women. Which backs up my above point of view

 

[rascal99v]

LOL :crackup:

Here's another dude who bashes texting instead of taking accountability for his bad game.

Texting isn't the problem here dude. It's you for being desperate with a chick who's interest has waned to a low level.


There are only 2 cons to texting

1. Texting chicks who have no interest

2. Desperate dudes who don't know what they are doing

Had this HB8(.5 on a sunny day) chick I dated a few months back.

Dated her for a month anna half

LOL. Everybody always claims an 8. You knew her long enough for her to already have attraction

But the problem is, midway through texting, she doesn't reply
then a week later she texts me and when I reply, she doesn't again.
This has been happening for like 3 months

A week later? And you're still talking to her? This wasn't a smoove moove. This your own fault for continuing to text a chick who shows a clear lack of interest. You're showing her that you are a desperate man with no options. This is not the fault of texting, this is your fault. She would reply in 2 minutes to dude that she wanted to bang.

I keep giving her chances thinking hey "Maybe she's driving around my house BUTT NAKED and wants to stop by for the D"

Wishful thinking. Her getting back to you a week later shows you that won't be happening.

Only to have her NOT reply and me, contemplate why.

The obvious answer is that she isn't interested. Why couldn't you figure that out?

Anyway, the moral of the story and the error of my ways is, if I had called her to set up the date, I would've of been gravy. But instead I tried to build attraction,(which was lost and had to be regained) through screen pixels. (which is not Impossible, but shouldn't have been course of action when previous interest was already lost)

More of the same old tired talking points that these same anti texting dudes regurgitate over and over. It's hard to regain lost attraction. So, it doesn't matter what you were doing, you still would get the same results.

When a chick is not interested, calling to set up a date won't change the outcome. Why is it so hard for these guys to figure that out?

If she was interested, she would respond to your texts and still want the D. Calling her would not make any difference.

Texting isn't the problem here. It's you and your game. :yes:

 

[mv.89]

I agree with the above ^^^

and didn't we recently have a huge breakdown of how the texting game is supposed to be played if you don't know how ? There was a thread here.

Texting game can do wonders and could take you down the hole as well. For example- if you say, do something stupid, it'll remind her every time she is about to reply back lol

I forgot but someone on this forum/online said - Before you send a text just think like " you are the girl and you are sitting reading it aloud in front of your other female friends. If it puts a smile on your face or tingles you down there, send it. If it doesn't DON'T"

 

[SmooveMooves]

LOL :crackup:

Here's another dude who bashes texting instead of taking accountability for his bad game.

Texting isn't the problem here dude. It's you for being desperate with a chick who's interest has waned to a low level.


There are only 2 cons to texting

1. Texting chicks who have no interest

2. Desperate dudes who don't know what they are doing




LOL. Everybody always claims an 8. You knew her long enough for her to already have attraction



A week later? And you're still talking to her? This wasn't a smoove moove. This your own fault for continuing to text a chick who shows a clear lack of interest. You're showing her that you are a desperate man with no options. This is not the fault of texting, this is your fault. She would reply in 2 minutes to dude that she wanted to bang.



Wishful thinking. Her getting back to you a week later shows you that won't be happening.



The obvious answer is that she isn't interested. Why couldn't you figure that out?



More of the same old tired talking points that these same anti texting dudes regurgitate over and over. It's hard to regain lost attraction. So, it doesn't matter what you were doing, you still would get the same results.

When a chick is not interested, calling to set up a date won't change the outcome. Why is it so hard for these guys to figure that out?

If she was interested, she would respond to your texts and still want the D. Calling her would not make any difference.

Texting isn't the problem here. It's you and your game. :yes:

Brah,

I don't know who pissed in your cereal.

Or sh1t in your bed.

But relax, the hostility in your post is reminiscent of a woman.

WooSaa

Breathe in.....

Then out

Good.

However, seeing as I sense your in the mood for arguing and bashing, rather then have a discussion, I shall only respond to you just this once, only to clarify a few things.

Tha First- I'm not bashing texting, I simply stated a con to texting, just like there's a con to everything else, the con being: Its hard to gauge interest Lvl or motives through text-
As for calling me a a texting basher, the last few lines where I clearly state "I'm a big advocate of texting as I..." Must of slipped your eyes

Tha Second- Your comment "Everyone claims an 8". Being that the rating system is entirely subjective, a female which I may call an 8 may not recieve the same grade from you. However i gurantee my "8" is still very above average to most dudes. That being said, your comment makes it appear as if an 8 is unrealistic, which, may be the case for you, but I on the other hand, usually fvck around with 7's and Up. Even before I got into game. I have the value to hold these standards, do you?

Tha Third- None of my actions were those I would deem "desperate" as you so chose to describe, again SHE contacted ME on Facebook, SHE requested MY number, and SHE suggested that we date again. The only mistake I made was continuing to give her the BOTD which is the entire reason I made this post, to point out my mistake and make sure other guys don't make the same one.

Tha Fourth- Please learn to read properly, I'm beginning to think that you guys skim posts and pick out what you think the post was about. If you had read my post appropriately you would have know that I'm not an "anti-texting Guy" as my post said nothing of the sort. This post wasn't that long, please read all words to obtain maximum comprehension, Thank-you in advance for your compliance

Tha Fifth- Your comment "That was not a Smoove Moove" was hilarious, yet pointless, you little rascal you. <--------- See what I did there? Haha

The Sixth and Final- If I had called it would've made a difference, I would've been able to set up a date and be able to appropriately gauge whether or not she was interested from said voice call. Which she would've been because obviously if she pursued me after months of NC some interest was there.

So again, the moral of the story is...

Sometimes calling is better than texting and vice versa.

That is All.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Smooth: Rascal might have been blunt & straight to the point, but he's doing it for a reason; to get through to you.

His analysis is spot on.

Sure there are situations where texts can get misconstrued because you can't hear tone of voice or see their facial expression etc; but in THIS particular situation it was her low interest from the start that was really the undoing.

She text you to know that your still an option as you pointed out. You could argue if you didn't reply to her right away, acted more aloof that perhaps it might have temporarily sparked her interest again, but as Rascal mentioned the real problem is that its VERY HARD to raise a woman's interest level once it has plummeted to a certain level.

Once a woman loses interest, the only solid way to get her interested again is by doing two things:

a) her finding out other women are on your nutz

b) a long time away from her, so she forgets her low interest label of you


If you want to pin point your actual error, it was being receptive to a women who text you, then took a week to reply to your response. That wasn't a smart move. Remember anyone who takes a week or even a couple days to reply is someone that see's you as the lowest of priorities.

Never let your ======D trump your self respect. You weren't super chumpy, but you showed her that she can have you when she wants & that is never a good thing.

Bottom line, this chick is low quality; shake it off & go find new girls.


This had nothing to do with text vs calling; it was all about low interest, no matter what method of contact you would've used, she would have either flaked or gave you a lame excuse.










PIMP

 

[skinnyguy]

Smoove,

Rascal really owned you in this thread. You should listen to what he's saying instead of being defiant. Until you realize that your game is poor, you'll continue to be frustrated.

 

[asa_don]

smoovemooves,

if you can't handle a little constructive criticism here, how can you handle the women you know? up your game and stop whining. next!

 

[SmooveMooves]

Smooth: Rascal might have been blunt & straight to the point, but he's doing it for a reason; to get through to you.

His analysis is spot on.

Sure there are situations where texts can get misconstrued because you can't hear tone of voice or see their facial expression etc; but in THIS particular situation it was her low interest from the start that was really the undoing.

She text you to know that your still an option as you pointed out. You could argue if you didn't reply to her right away, acted more aloof that perhaps it might have temporarily sparked her interest again, but as Rascal mentioned the real problem is that its VERY HARD to raise a woman's interest level once it has plummeted to a certain level.

Once a woman loses interest, the only solid way to get her interested again is by doing two things:

a) her finding out other women are on your nutz

b) a long time away from her, so she forgets her low interest label of you


If you want to pin point your actual error, it was being receptive to a women who text you, then took a week to reply to your response. That wasn't a smart move. Remember anyone who takes a week or even a couple days to reply is someone that see's you as the lowest of priorities.

Never let your ======D trump your self respect. You weren't super chumpy, but you showed her that she can have you when she wants & that is never a good thing.

Bottom line, this chick is low quality; shake it off & go find new girls.


This had nothing to do with text vs calling; it was all about low interest, no matter what method of contact you would've used, she would have either flaked or gave you a lame excuse.










PIMP

I disagree, but I respect your input because of the way you approached it. Attacks on personality is not "blunt & straight to the point" but i defer.

As this is part of the website is called Don Juan Discussion I shall engage, or "be defiant" as someone described because I don't agree with said opinion:

Your A & B reasons are the entire reasons she contacted me, it had been a long time between us roughly, about a 11 months and she inboxed me shortly after I posted a flick of me and a chick (social value)

After I gave her my number and she texted me, I texted her for about a day or two, whereas if I had called, later that night, I would of been able to use my BS radar to gauge her...well...BS... and promptly set up a fvck which I believe would've had a high chance at success. (she was a terrible texter)

All in all, I respect you opinion. Men can have different ideals, and I'm down for of my fellow Djs input that can help improve my game, as long as its presented fashionably.

Thanks

 

[SmooveMooves]

Smoove,

Rascal really owned you in this thread. You should listen to what he's saying instead of being defiant. Until you realize that your game is poor, you'll continue to be frustrated.

This is the only thing that bugs me about this site, what do you mean "owned" ?

Is The Double S a forum for men to discuss and improve themselves?

Or a giant popularity competition in which the person with the best attacks, wittiest remarks, and conveys their opinion with the most disrespect is king?

This is SoSuave.com, not D1CKSWING.net so no one should be "owning" anyone but these h0es.

Maybe what you meant to say is "I agree with Rascal's opinion as well" or if you like the word owned "Rascals opinion owned yours!....in my opinion"

To which my response is: I don't, maybe I didn't describe the situation well enough, and you guys don't understand, or maybe we just share different ideals, again, for which I'm down for discussion upon.

And broseiden, who said I was frustrated, I simply stated I would've like to make her a FB because her sex is the opposite of terrible. No ones being desperate, calling her everyday, trying to contact her. Nope ...just wondering why I made the mistake of continuing to give her the BOTD, and not calling her when interest lvl was at highest instead of trying to text a poor texter.

However, Thanks for your input.

 

[Jariel]

It sounds like you're her back up plan or ego boost.

When her options are running low, she's turning to you for some attention and just to reassure herself that her safety net is still in place.

The best way you can handle this is to ignore her. I'm guessing the reason she's not into you that much is because you're not being a challenge and you're too available.

It will probably raise her interest level once you pull away, but it has to be long term. But, don't do it for her, do it for your own self respect.

 

[IndeedSir]

Repped smoothmoves. Not only was his analysis of the OP's issue correct, but he's been a gentlemen to all the people "owning" him in the awesome "game" of forum posts on the internet.

This issue has nothing to do with text game, in my opinion. And yes, it's just my opinion.

I have had the same thing from a number of old plates. It's usually if I dropped them when they weren't expecting it or they stopped seeing me. If you handle it well, for example NC or keep your frame strong, they sometimes send these silly messages to see if they still have any control left. From my experience, and it is fairly limited, they never seem to follow through. They just want to know they could follow through. Your best move is to deny them even the possibility of access to your time. You're the prize and she lost you.

Jariel nailed it with his post above me too.

EDIT: I will add a story also. One of my recent plates I've talked about in other threads has been doing EXACTLY this. She would try to spend time with me but when I agreed she never would. She'd ask me if she could jump into bed with me but she never would. At first it was amusing to me and I played along but I grew quite bored with it again recently as it'd been going on for about a month. She could tell I'd lost all interest and sent me a message saying she felt like things were awkward and that we should go out for a drink. I said I'm sorry you feel awkward. The feelings not mutual. Take care. x. I was a nice guy but I also completely disregarded her offer to spend time with me because she's just a young girl playing silly games and I really can't be bothered with it.

EDIT 2: Didn't notice smooth was the OP. You seem to have contradicted yourself mid way through haha.