"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sucksthisdoes

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There was this girl I really liked when I was younger, 19. I'm 23 now.

I completely blew it with her even though she liked me, as I had really bad teeth and she wouldnt have sex and i wouldnt stand for it

she hooked up with some other guy and has been with him for 4 years

i came on myspace.com and one day someone creates an account with pictures of teeth, very indirectly, in my zipcode.

I setup a tracker on my page and got hits from chicago (where she lives now)
I figured out it was her so I setup an account mocking her boyfriend/atleast guys shes attracted to usually (hes an artist & musician)

I was dumb and just told the truth basically

they are like obsessed with me now and wont leave me alone like for almost a year they have been ragging on me about it

i am getting dental work done in about 3 weeks

she created an account with her real name and details "in a relationship" a few days ago, i didnt know she was still in a relationship so thats why the guys so pissed off at me

i can tell the difference between her boyfriend and her because they dont live together, I can track there IPs but they dont know

she is like obsessed with my blog she reads it like all day, seriously, and so does her boyfriend at different times.

the boyfriend is pissed as hell and seems maybe a little bit too pissed, so apparently theres something about me hes afraid of

but yeah im coming into alot of money now too and am looking pimp in my armani suits so i figure thats why shes giving me honest attention, and keeps setting up accounts like shes some indie chick who wants me to ride a bike and crap like that, giving me **** because I just got a brand new avalon?

her boyfriends a huge loser financially but in this scene hes a big player as a musician who knows other musicians and surrounded by counter-culture people who resent mainstream idealism, or atleast..lie and say they do

honestly, i just want to **** her and dump her and really would like to figure out a way to make her leave her boyfriend and do that.

the only advice i can think of is to just stop going on myspace, but the thing is is that i like dont login officially for like a month and sometimes longer but will come on there anonymously (no way she knows im on there) and she will be logged in in my zipcode under an account like all day everyday,always creating new accounts and sending little indirect messages about whats wrong with me, like she just really wants attention,
they are seriouslly stalking me. im 99% sure its a game between the both of them, but i'd like to **** there game up somehow. ideally with the **** her and dump her results

any advice would be appreciated
im thinking of just removing myspace all together but i'd like to leave with something that brings intrigue or some **** like that, the guys a total loser as far as money is concerned so i'd like to emphasise that point. the **** has been threatening me and saying **** about my mom that just died last year, im gonna break his legs if i ever see him

thing is is that i was really unattractive then, but im about to be much more attractive and successful then i was.

any ideas? I just ignore it for the most part but its ****ing weird
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well that was a waste of 5 minutes of my life.

The internet means nothing. Forget her unless she rings you up or sees you in person, get into the real world and meet other people.
 

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exactly

i just needed to hear that, I dont want to tell people in person about it it sounds lame as ****. but when I'm off work, late at night like now I'll go on there and bs and post in my blog and I'm just like whats up with these two stalking me.

shes moving back here though soon as shes graduated from college, more hints she throws me. I think I'll just ditch the blog and come back on, its kind of lame anyway. Its just that my friends might read it once a week, these guys read it non-stop.

I just dont want to ask my friends about it cause they'll just want to get involved in it

internet stalkers..
 

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Post something witty in your blog about how pathetic people must be to bother to read all the stuff you write or something like that for a bit of a laugh.

I don't know, I've never really been into reading or writing blogs.. Keep doing it if you want, and don't care if they are watching the whole time. Ignore them.

I mean, you call them stalkerish all the while you are stalking behind them and watching their IP the whole time...
 

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right

I get your point, thats why I posted here because I'm starting to post in my blog just because I know she'll read it and I dont like that kind of impulsivity, I think I just like the attention. I already busted out the boyfriend like 2 weeks ago using a second account, didnt get much of a response from him except a picture of a dead person with my name and details. I called him a weirdo and a stalker, ever since then shes had this real account in my zip that she logs into all the time.. but she doesnt say anything. Just logs in. She doesnt even live here though. I'm in Washington state and shes in Illinois.

But yeah whatever I'm just gonna stop going to that site for a few months maybe they'll go away, it just kind of bugs me to have them remind me of that cause it really beat me up for awhile at the time
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Decided to

Just make my blog private for friends only.
That will give them a hint. Just that I've had three girls from the area, one of whom I met (but wasnt very hot) contact me and add me to there friends list just because they've been reading my blog. I post pics and all kinds of crap on it, people find me amusing I guess
 

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Your lawyer would tell you to make sure that you preface all blog insults with "in my personal opinion." That should keep it from being libel.
 
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