--- A Challenger ---

[Charm&Style]

I know being a don juan is not only being a pro at getting girls but its also being an idol, or role-model to others...

I need advice for this situation...

Me and Jess have become very passionate about each other...we both like each other and would like an LTR with each other. The problem is that Jess is a pvssy when it comes to public relationships...no problem with me, i told her we'll keep our sh!t to ourselves untill your grow up and we make it official.

After i heard her say that shes still young and as of right now doesnt want to be in a relationship i went out and found my self a back up chick who i told jess is crazy about me, which she is.

But now there is some other guy who is 3 yrs younger than jess (btw jess is 18) who has some BS puppy crush on her...this guy is her best-friends-cousin who they hang out with alot. The guy has told her how he loves her and wants to step up their friendship into a relationship...but she answered with a no i dont want to be with anyone right now.

I know he isnt much of a challange but sometimes it seems like they fool around alot and it seems like she just wants to get back at me...And it does get to me sometimes.

Anyways in a situation when there is someone else who likes the girl your sarging how do you play your cards...to make yourself like more valuable than the challenger.

I know the story is kinda childish but i know most of you have been in a situation similiar to this, where someone else likes the same girl you do and the girl becomes all arrogant and starts to play mind games...

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[Desdinova]

After i heard her say that shes still young and as of right now doesnt want to be in a relationship

Since you're not in a LTR with her, it shouldn't matter that other guys are interested in her. However, if you find that you can't tolerate her doing this, you should cut contact with her because it will only get worse. A woman who doesn't want a LTR with you isn't a ideal woman to start one with.

 

[squirrels]

Dunno...sounds like she's being pretty honest with you. She doesn't want to be in a relationship...she wants to fool around with other guys.

Either you're getting value out of being with her or you're not. If you're getting value out of being with her, despite the fact that she's not committing to you, then just keep seeing her and keep seeing other girls at the same time until you find someone who IS willing to commit.

If it's that much of a sticking point for you that she's not committing, then cut her loose. Don't tolerate someone who isn't respecting what YOU value in the "relationship".

The other guy is irrelevant. You have nothing to "prove" to him, as long as you're respecting and making the most of YOURSELF. Beyond that, it's up to her whether she wants to be a part of your life or whether she wants to be replaced.

Hehe...kids.

 

[Charm&Style]

So when she said that she sees herself with me but as of right now she just doesnt want to be in a realtionship i shouldnt sarge her anymore?

When i heard her say that to me i thought about the same thing you said bro, and thats why i went out and got a back up chick who i play on the side with.

But other than the story i gave, can you help with the main point of the topic.

How to make yourself more valuable than the challenger, i know ive read in some post on this site that you should be hella friendly and chill with them...but other than that how would someone come off "better" than the other...?

Thnx