Alright, so I actually went and took a look at your site to get an idea of who you are.
This is Playing With Fire. Something of a dating coach in the same realm as How to Beast, I'd seen his videos in my feed before but never actually watched them until now.
If I had to guess, based on the fact that you went from posting videos that got 250k-5m views a couple of years ago...to routinely getting less than 10k or even 5k now, I'd wager you're dabbling in seduction communities to try and bring back that attention, and by extension, sales.
It looks like that pattern is pretty consistent across Instagram and TikTok as well.
There's a guy on here that seems to have employed a similar strategy, and disappeared when it didn't work:
@AsianPlayboy
What I'm trying to say is, have you considered that maybe the reason you're struggling to pull views is because the advice you're preaching isn't that good/useful? I don't mean to say it's objectively "bad", but it looks like most of your recent content centers around dating apps, texting, staged demos, and approaching for phone numbers. Here's why I think these aren't effective:
- Dating Apps: Generally low-quality women with high-quality standards. I am a very attractive guy. I do not get a lot of matches on dating apps. Probably about half the women I swipe on are bots, inactive, or trans - because the attractive ones don't need them; they can fire up Instagram and have somebody fly them out to Dubai and pay their college tuition tonight. I bought Tinder Gold for a weekend when I visited my brother in NYC for my birthday. We were in line for a club, and I got tired of actually looking through all the trolls and started right swiping everybody, for a solid 30 minutes or so. Between the ones who Liked Me that I could view, and the ones I matched with from doing all this, there were ZERO women I wanted - I unmatched them all. As a matter of fact, the ONLY match I got that I was interested in was from Hinge, and I had to use my weekly rose on her since the Standouts were the only attractive ones. She wasn't available that weekend, so nothing happened with her. My point is that the dating apps are nice to have, but they really aren't a strong selling point...If this is the experience I'm having as an attractive guy, imagine how much it sucks for the average guy.
- Texting: Nothing wrong with it, but nothing really exciting either. Unless you make some wildly stupid decisions and shoot yourself in the foot, when a girl gives you a phone number, she's probably already decided whether she's open to sleeping with you. Getting a phone number is like getting a follower on Instagram, or an add on Snapchat - it doesn't really mean much. I believe it's much more important to make a strong first impression in person, ideally in a way where you don't need her number. There have been times when I've slept with a woman and never gotten her number...because I didn't need it...I made a strong enough impression right then and there.
- Staged Demos: These mean nothing. You're making a piece of content and ask an attractive woman to assist you, where her only job is to follow your lead. This removes any "natural" aspect of an interaction and how it would go.
- Approaching: Means only slightly more than nothing. There are so many posts (mine included) about guys going up to a girl, getting her number, maybe even making out and getting her to the bedroom, and then not sealing the deal. I have so many numbers in my phone of women that I cannot remember in the slightest...and I imagine for several of them that I made even less of an impression when I met them. Additionally, these videos are easy to fake. I remember Good Looking Loser as somebody who was known to use paid models and actresses to play along with his "infield approaches". Due to the sensitive nature of protecting private information, it's very hard for these to come across as legitimate when so many things online are fake: lifestyles, private jets, trips to Dubai, etc.
This was way longer than I originally intended it to be, but I'm just saying all this because this community doesn't historically respond to being sold low-hanging fruit or clickbait. Most people here have the awareness to experience more success than the average man in the dating world, or at the very least, the understanding of their shortcomings as needing to be worked on.
TL;DR If you want to post something useful to this community, maybe do it using something more effective than the dating world equivalent of cold email.
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