35 yr old gave me her number...how to proceed?

[Sofomore]

I'm 23 years old and she's 35. I met her through okcupid and we hit it off, talking about traveling and a bunch of other things. From her pictures it looks like she has an unbelievable body. After a few messages I asked for her phone number and she gladly gave it to me.

In her message she writes "You seem pretty cool, heres my number xxx-xxx-xxxx. I have to be honest though, I am definitely at a point in my life where I am looking to settle down."

I expected this because she's 35 and probably wants to find a husband. Now, why would she be talking to a 23 year old (aside from my charming smile ). It's pretty clear that I am not going to be "husband" material, rather a good romp from a young guy. I definitely don't want to settle down. I just want to slam an older woman for the experience. Maybe she's saying this as "If you make the right moves I'll sleep with you, but don't expect us to start dating"? I figure no 35 yr old wants to settle with a guy 12 years younger than her.

Since the oldest girl I've been with was 28, I don't really know how to proceed. She has her own startup and probably makes triple what I do. I'm thinking I take her to a bar for some drinks. What do you guys think? Any advice on what to do?

 

[SgtSplacker]

If she really wanted a husband she would be dating someone closer to her own age. Go along with it and hit that with the fury of an angry god.

 

[NewToTheGame]

Well, when she said she's "looking to settle down" I thought that that statement might be directed to herself. In other words, "why am I talking to this hot young guy, I should be trying to settle down." So by telling you that, she is expressing her wishes, but not necessarily her desires, if you get my drift.

Not knowing you or her of course, it is hard to give specific advice. I can only tell you what my mindset would be going in. Even though she seems like she wants a relationship in her near future, I would avoid talking in those terms or treating her that way. Just go out and have fun, but be aware this might not be the "shots of tequila" "sloppy public makeout" kind of girl. Then again, she may be!

I like the bar idea in this case. Dim lights and music have a way of minimizing any age difference. This will help keep her comfortable with the situation. I wouldn't go heavy on kino to start just in case she is really serious with the "settling down" thing. If you are all over her it could blow you out in a hurry.

Just be positive, smile, joke, etc. Act impressed by whatever she tells you about herself, but not blown away by it. Take her somewhere with pool or darts. Beating her in some mild competition would probably be a nice touch, especially if you can tease her well.

If she likes you, she'll probably invite you back to her place. I don't know why, but that's been my (limited) experience with older women. At that point it's time to up the sexual aggression, a little bit at a time.

Your mileage may vary. Honestly, I don't have a lot of experience with older women. At this point though, it actually sounds kinda fun. Like Splacker said, if she agrees to the date, she is probably looking to get banged by a younger guy for fun. All you have to do is avoid setting off her feelings of wanting something more.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Spot on advice already in this thread.

Her: I have to be honest though, I am definitely at a point in my life where I am looking to settle down.

What she's really trying to say: I'm looking to settle down but in the mean time I'll let a young firecracker like yourself (no homo) blow me out until I do find a guy I want to settle down with.

 

[JohnChops]

dude rail her! she wants to fvck, shes 35!

no strings attached, have a good time. when older women seek out younger ones like that its usually for 1. attention or 2. sex. play your cards right and it shall be #2

@peaksandvalleys is spot on!

 

[Thorninmyside]

She's in her prime. Go and hit that **** seven ways from Sunday and report back.

 

[GS750]

Spot on advice already in this thread.

Her: I have to be honest though, I am definitely at a point in my life where I am looking to settle down.

What she's really trying to say: I'm looking to settle down but in the mean time I'll let a young firecracker like yourself (no homo) blow me out until I do find a guy I want to settle down with.

That's it right there.

 

[Chase24]

Agreed with what everyone else has said. She's just looking for a young guy to wear her out while she shops for a husband. You're in a great situation

If she makes any small comments about your age just either ignore or make little jabs at her back. I just met a hot 32 year old with who's new to town and looking for a husband, and she initially used every chance to make comments about my age after she was the one to reach out to me. Playful tease back and it'll quickly end (if it even happens to you). She'd say something like "you're so much younger, you probably still live with your parents." I'd counter with something like "how much do you remember of WWII?" Worked for me.

 

[sylvester the cat]

you know you're getting old when an 'older woman' of 35 seems like a youngster...

 

[LiveFreeX]

So many guys here desperate for the p00n. Do you not have standards?

Throw it on the ground.

 

[Sofomore]

So many guys here desperate for the p00n. Do you not have standards?

Throw it on the ground.

I have standards. Probably higher than yours. No need to justify anything to you bro. It's not like I'm trying to put a ring on it.

Plus, I'm not listening to a guy that says girls deserve to get raped: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=204634

 

[El Payaso]

Let's all calm down. She just gave him his number. He still has a bit of work to do. Don't get ahead of yourself yet, OP. Just play it cool. I had an older woman give me her number once but when I asked her out, she started giving excuses. Not saying it will happen to you but don't put sex in front yet. Remember, outcome independence. Just go out with her and have a nice time regardless of if you bang her or not.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Let's all calm down. She just gave him his number. He still has a bit of work to do. Don't get ahead of yourself yet, OP. Just play it cool. I had an older woman give me her number once but when I asked her out, she started giving excuses. Not saying it will happen to you but don't put sex in front yet. Remember, outcome independence. Just go out with her and have a nice time regardless of if you bang her or not.

That is a good point, and should be mentioned. Unless you two are sexting each other and she's sending you pics of herself three fingers deep, then definitely still need to play it cool. One way to fvck up a sure thing is to act like it's a sure thing.