10 Tips from Mystery

[BuildingSomethingBig]

Here are 10 tips from Mystery, as well as my own commentary:

1 ) Get into the habit of starting conversations just for the practice. Release your outcome and find a zen in the process.

Take the pressure of yourself by stop focussing on the outcome. Don't go into an interaction with the sole objective of getting laid. Be social for the sake of being social. Get used to talking with everyone; men, women, young, old, ugly, beautiful, etc.

2 ) Between approaches, always remember to smile while mingling.

This is important. Look like you're having fun, even if you're not. I remember something that I read from Juggler once, he said that when you spontaneously make eye contact with a woman, you have just a fraction of a second to make a facial expression before she looks away - not really enough time to smile. By already having a smile on your face, nine time out of ten the woman will smile back at you when you make eye contact. However, avoid the cheesey perma-grin.

3 ) Lean back and relax when you initiate conversations. Don’t lean in. Speak slowly and expressively. This alone will improve your game by 300%.

This body language shows confidence and non-supplication. Be chill. People who speak fast do so because they have low self-confidence and assume that the person listening really isn't interested in what they have to say.

4 ) Be chatty – really – and convey a strong sense of fascination. Talk about relationships and the mysterious, and use lots of humor as well as emotional and sensory descriptions.

Mystery calls this stuff chick crack. He claims that all women love to talk about relationships and the mysterious, hence a lot of his canned routines and openers realted to that stuff. Basically, I think it really depends on the type of women that you game and the context. These are safe subjects for a club or bar environment where most women don't really want intelligent, deep conversation.

5 ) Don’t say anything to impress her, such as brag about your job, girls, friends, protectiveness, etc. Instead, obliquely convey value via demonstration and via incidental story details. If she can tell that you are trying to impress her, she will perceive you as lower value.

Speaks for itself really. Keep her guessing about whether or not you are actually interested in her to raise your perceived value.

6 ) Don’t ever act as if anything is a big deal. Just be fun and playful all the time. Vibe with her but don’t have emotional reactions to her. The same way you would act with your 8-year-old niece.

It's very important not to be too reactive. Always control the frame. When a woman throws you a shyt test and you react badly, she is controlling the frame. Just keep that playful vibe. This is especially important in the initial phases of the seduction.

7 ) As you hang out with her, and she has an opportunity to win you over, THEN show her increasing interest. She must recognize that she has genuinely won you over with her personality.

Beauty is common. Show her that her looks are not enough to win you over like every other chump in the place. Find out things about her other than her looks, so that you can show a more legitimate attraction to her.

8 ) Balance indicators of interest with indicators of disinterest. Do this both in your conversation with her and also as you escalate with her physically. This has a nuclear effect.

Push-pull. Keep her on her toes. Keep her guessing. This is most important in the initial phase of the seduction where you are creating attraction (improving her perceived value of you.)

9 ) Wear one accessory that gives other people on opportunity to initiate a conversation with you. Have a good story prepared for when this happens.

Basic Peacock Theory. This may or may not be your style. It's not essential, but it gives people the opportunity to open you.

10) Have a life. Go to the gym and stay in shape, and continually improve your wardrobe. Cultivate your circle of female friends. Throw parties. Put effort into your social circle. A girl should imagine herself being a part of your cool life.

Self-improvement - the ethos of SoSuave.com. Important point here is cultivating a social circle. This is the more effective way of meeting lots and lots of girls, and also gives you the opportunity to go out more.

From Mystery's blog:
http://www.venusianarts.com/blog/index.php

 

[Jariel]

Good guidelines!

Try to integrate this stuff into your natural behaviour and you can't go far wrong with this advice. Some nice commentaries too!

 

[KarmaSutra]

Good job :rockon:

 

[BuildingSomethingBig]

Try to integrate this stuff into your natural behaviour and you can't go far wrong with this advice.

Yes, that's an important point you've raised there. I think the more experience you have, the more socially calibrated you will become, and the less you will have to worry about the guidelines. The guidelines are simply there to help socially awkward guys to become more natural.

All a question of experience. You will eventually reach a point where you won't have to think about these things, they will become instinctive.

 

[avrilishot]

sweet I liked that alot. thanks man

 

[rsxtreme]

i like this thread