1 year later

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

The Gambler

Senior Don Juan

Nov 7, 2012

Danger said:
He gave her the peace of mind that she needed.

Going ghost on a poor prospect has nothing to do with going celibate. Trust me, having self-respect has been the best thing for my sex life.

I hear you, and I don't disagree with the principle of what you're saying. It's just that my interpretation of what happened is probably different. Based on her comments, she seemed irritated to me, not having peace of mind. And even more so, she now knows without a doubt that he's no longer her floor mat because of his communication.

As long as our buddy DonJuanathan is over her and moving on to great things, we can all be happy for him.

The Gambler

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.